My wife's friend

My wife's friend and I have got quite close (our kids do many after school activities together). She is sexy, witty, funny, and takes care of her family better than anyone I know. My wife discovered some flirty texts between us one day and pretty much shut it down. She said that the texts were innocent but she didn't want it to lead to anything else. I actually miss talking to her and spending time with her. I'm pretty sure she feels the same way but I'm having a hard time trying to figure out how to bring it up with her. The worst case scenario is that she rejects me and tells my wife (which I would deny completely) but I'm about 95% sure she wouldn't do that. My friends say just to tell her how I feel and say that even if nothing comes of it, I would be fine with that also. My worst fear would be going the rest of my life wondering.

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  • I had a similar incident last year with my GFs best friend. She's beautiful and like my GF had a rough tough childhood. That is what attracted me to my GF....I wanted to make her life soooo much better than she had experienced before. Well her GF was going through rough times so we let her stay with us for a few months...nothing happened between us besides getting to know each other. A few months after she moved out and got back on her feet she began coming around A LOT. She would stop by all the time, when my GF was home or not. It was summer so there were times we'd sit outside and have a few beers together while my GF was at work.....then we started meeting up at night clubs...first it was just innocent dancing an drinking. We would leave separately and that would be that. But I couldn't get her out of my mind. We would secretly text all the time...then came the pictures to each other. One night out we left together and just started making out....we left it at that. This happened a few times. I was mesmerized by her. Infatuated. One nite after the club I ended up at a friends and confessed my obsession for her. Course in my drunkin state I didn't care who was around. An acquaintance of my GF day she told my GF all she was a difficult few months after that. I cut all ties to my GFs best friend and began repairing the destruction I caused in my relationship. Things are good now but it wasn't easy to fix. Thank god my lady loves me an wanted to keep us together. I feel horrible that I destroyed their childhood friendship. I hope my story helps in anyway.

  • The reason that most relationships fail is due to poor communication. You've made a promise to be honest and open with another person, so I think you've got to speak to your wife about this. If it is innocent, then you have nothing to worry about. Keeping secrets is when things get all foggy. You should ask yourself: what is the reason behind wanting to keep the secret? If it's because you feel guilty, then do you have something to feel guilty about?

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