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I hate my step son with every fiber of my being. We used to only have him every other weekend and I would just hide in my room those weekends. Now we have him 100% of the time and he is driving me INSANE. I think about divorce at least once/week just because of this ** **. He did horribly in public school, so his dad decided I should homeschool him. He is ten years old, but my three year old is smarter than him. More than once, my three year old has answered a question that the little fuckwad didn't know the answer to. He can't do simple mathematics, can hardly read (and chooses to read my daughter's board books when he's forced to read), still can't spell three letter words, etc etc etc. I will present information to him in a million ways and try to make it as fun and as exciting for him as possible and he won't grasp a ** lick of it.
He still ** AND ** himself. No joke, one day I kept smelling something foul and couldn't figure out where it was coming from. I thought maybe the cats and taken a dump, so I cleaned their box.... NOPE. I smelled it all through breakfast and while I did my morning chores. I took a shower and had to pass his room and realized that I smelled the stench again. STILL didn't occur to me that the idiot had ** himself, so I went downstairs. About thirty minutes later, he was on the couch (watching ** Thomas the Train, because he is a COMPLETE AND UTTER **) and I FINALLY realized that the smell was coming from him. He NEVER EVER responds when you talk to him, so I just asked if he knew he smelled. NO RESPONSE. Then it hit me - HE ** HIS ** PANTS. I say "Did you ** your pants?" and he just stares at me. Eventually he says "I guess I'll go take a bath." UH DUHHHHH!!! Did you really ** eat breakfast, play with toys, and watch tv ALL WHILE SITTING IN YOUR OWN **? Yes, he did. And Daddy Dearest doesn't ** care. UGH.
He ** his pants CONSTANTLY. I find pissy underwear hidden all the time. I even found a stash of my daughter's pull ups that he'd ** in and hidden under his desk. STILL, Daddy Dearest doesn't give a **.
He is also ugly as **. He has buck teeth that are brighter than the sun and I want to punch them out of his scrawny ** face every time he stares at me when I ask a simple question.
My daughter adores him and tries to play with him, but gets so frustrated because he won't ever respond to anything she says. I eventually have to yell "RESPOND WHEN SHE TALKS TO YOU, PLEASE!" and he'll eventually say something totally ** stupid.
He is a complete follower with no imagination or personality of his own. When he is around his significantly younger cousins, he copies everything they say and do and laughs when he has no ** idea what is going on.
He has like three chores that he has to do every day (make his bed, empty the trash from the bathrooms, and put his laundry away). YET every single day, if you don't break it down ** Barney style for him, he "forgets" how to do them. Seriously. The other day I told him to take care of the trash and he came down with his arms full of used toilet paper and pads and ** because he "forgot" that he was just supposed to take the bags out and replace them. WTF? THAT IS A SPECIAL KIND OF RETARDED!!! Literally EVERY SINGLE DAY, I have to tell him how to do his chores again.
His NANA, who lives right across the street, babies him like ** crazy. She still picks him up and carries him on her hip through stores (he is small for his age) and rocks him. HOLY **, I cannot stand it. She thinks that he is right on track academically (nevermind that I had to purchase kindergarten curriculum instead of grade 5 after realizing that he didn't even know all of his letters) and that it is other kids who are "too advanced". She tells my husband that it is completely normal for him to pee and ** himself and that it will just go away. SOOOO DH doesn't do ** and just lets him run around completely uneducated and having more accidents than my potty trained three year old. Oh! And one time, my daughter had colored stuffed blocks with her and ** said "This one is blue!" and Nana actually said "Good job!" and made a giant ** stink about the idiot knowing what blue looks like.
I am embarrassed to take him in public because people have literally asked if something was wrong with him. So I just stay locked up in my house with the ** ** all day long.
It really helps to know that there are other people in this world who are going through the same ** I am. That there are people who feel the same way about the little ** in their life as I feel about the one in mine. I have tried to talk to people I am very close to about my thoughts. They don't understand.
And they never will, unless some day they have to live under these circumstances. I feel like an awful person for feeling the way I do about my stepson, and I know everyone else would think I am too. But I defy anyone to live with the a-hole I do and not end up hating on him in a month, flat.
I'm writing this to tell everyone that has a mentally disabled child in their life to get that child into therapy and/or special school before it they get completely out of control. I know a small child with mental retardation.
There's just too many of them. If I ever have a mentally disabled child in my life I'm shipping them off to a home. Buh-bye burden!!!!
I would have had my mentally retarded sister, shipped off to a home if I could have but she eventually died from a heart attack - several years later. Buh-bye sista, hardly miss ya!
I wish it was that easy. I wish he could be sent to a place for special people. I wish he could be sent away forever. I hate him. I hate him so much. Even hearing his name fills me with rage.
We all know the feeling... It's not out of the ordinary. Nobody likes a misbehaved child... Nobody except for the parent. If we are not the actual parent, then we see children for what they are and not through a veil of pride.
I found this on Google, I've read some of the comments and it made me feel better about my situation. My wife has a 7 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. They're both kinda ** up. The 12 year old is all social anxiety and takes pills. I think her laziness outweighs her anxiety and she leverages it to her advantage to get out of chores and social responsibilities by crying. She's not the issue though and I think the pills are actually helping her not to be such a sour ** sometimes. The 7 year old boy has been a giant wet sloppy ** since the day I've met him, though. I don't hate him, per se. I just can't stand being around him when he acts like such a **. Startles ridiculously easily, cries about ** no human should be bothered by, openly confesses about how ** scared everything makes him. I wouldn't be surprised if he had a bunch of posts on this website about the ** he's afraid of. He gets great grades but he's a ** moron. You tell him to perform a simple task and he just looks at you with this ** autistic look on his face. Unlike most of you guys, he and I are capable of getting along great sometimes. He calls Dad, he's handsome as **, (even though he's often mistaken for a girl as we both have long hair), and he can be pretty polite. I just have never had any tolerance for kids and all of a sudden, God was like "here you go. Boot camp training." So here we are 3 years later, 90% of the fights with my wife are about this disobedient 50 lb ** pile of ADHD and I don't really see the light at the end of the tunnel. BUT, as the good Lord has stated, it's not about what we see, it's about standing on his promises.
For those of you who come across this page to vent, gain insight, support each other, because the love of your life came with some unfairly annoying baggage, I offer you these words as solace... God has promised you a prosperous marriage. He keeps his promises and not even an annoying little ** attached at the umbilical cord can prevent God from keeping his word. Hold onto the promise of a good marriage and don't focus on what your eyes see, focus on his promises. Kids eventually move out and move on... It's our jobs as parents to prepare them for life, within the confines of their learning capacity, of course. NOW. Something practical for you.
It's OKAY to dislike your stepkid(s). There are no laws stating that you have to love or even like them, but try your damnedest to make sure they don't know that they're disliked or even hated. This is the hardest part of my advice but the most important because a person of any age can NOT mature or develop AT ALL in a constant state of defense. If they know they're hated, they will seek comfort and the bio parent or grandparent will baby them, worsening the situation. INSTEAD, lead by example. Teach them something that interests you, make yourself a role model they want to emulate in some fashion. Show them how to build something with Legos, make cinnamon toast, or how to check the oil in your car, ANYTHING. Learning is exciting outside of the context of school. It's a start. If they were more like you and less like them, they'd be less irritating, right? Plus, the spouse will appreciate the effort to no end, whether successful or not. (It may take a few tries to get right).
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Next bit of practical advice is make sure you get some alone time without them from time to time. Find a babysitter the spouse can trust (obviously we'll take the first person willing if it were up to us) because if they aren't comfortable with the one watching over their little shitheads then they won't be able to enjoy themselves alone with you and may even cut things short...
Hang in there. I will pray for those in this post. Ignore the childworshipping dumbasses who ask you to kill yourself simply for venting frustration. They don't know what it's like, so ignore it. You aren't evil based on your thoughts, only your actions. Even Jesus Christ was tempted. The urge to smack your stepkid as hard as you can out of frustration is natural in my opinion and only harmful when acted on. But if you're invested to the point of that degree of frustration, you might as well go the extra mile and try to have a positive effect on things. God gave you your spouse and the means to make it work. You owe it to yourself to see it through. There you have it from the perspective of a devout Christian stepdad realist... Certainly not a highly populated segment of the world, but I hope these words help you whether you're a believer or not. God bless and farewell
I came into a relationship with a 20 year old step son, at that time, had shaken baby syndrome as an infant, bipolar, anxiety and PTSD, but was living on his own,since then he was diagnosed with schizophrenia, won't stay at any place for more than a month, lies and steals and wants nothing more than to live with his dad. I can't do it. When he did stay with us, I found a steak knife under his bed and he was telling his sister he was going to break me and his dad up and hated me. I tried nothing but to support him and get him on the right track and it ** him off that I expected responsibility and ownership and to get his life on track . A few years later the saga continues, but now we are dealing with legal and drug issues and he's back here again and we are trying to find assisted living because he can't function as an adult at 25.. He won't take his meds and he rolls everyone who helps him, screws them over, talks ** about them and leaves in the middle of the night. This ** should have been taken care of long before I came into the picture. He's always had behavior issues but no one ever to deal with him., but me because I am sick of it. His entire family treated him like a victim, rather than empowering him and now he is not functioning well at all as an adult and is creating more problems and is a constant burden. Hate to say it, but I didn't do it and I don't know how to help, but ** sure can't deal with it.
He's your step-son not your real son, so cut him off. He's a grown ** man, time so say bye to his **. If you want to be walked all over, feel free because he ain't gonna change. If I were you, I would leave the area and not tell the creep where I was going.
Seldom see an old schizophrenic, usually it is the drugs that do them in. those that do live a fairly normal life usually have a person they trust who monitor and care for them, understand their cycles and their meds.
RFLMFAO tried it been there got the t-shirt and video evidence. he is a lazy fat lump that every time you try your wrong in both his and my partner's eyes. Tag teamed over and over again I just can't win even when I've proved the pair of them wrong, mistaken and factually incorrect. I try not to talk to them anymore it avoids the conflict. time is short I feel.
I'm so glad I'm not the only person with a stupid retarded slow ** stepchild !
But outsiders wouldn't understand because they don't have to deal with this BS every f***** day !!!!
Hilarious, I had a similar situation with a total **, I had to tell the ** to ** off.
Omfg. I am SO glad there are people just like me out here. I've googled "I hate my bf's son" and things like that for awhile and have found nothing so relatable until now. I'm in the same situation.
Let me start off by saying I didn't always hate his son nor have I ever hated someone who was or apparently was mentally disabled before now. I hate this little ** with every ounce of my being. He's now 2. My bf and the retards mother were married for a short time before we got together. She is a fat, worthless piece of **. She's dumb as **, too. My bf is my best friend. We only ever argue about his 2 year old. When we got together, the kid was 1. I got pregnant shortly after. I have a baby boy with this man. He's one reason why I don't leave. I don't want that ** ** around my son. My bf's son doesn't talk, he babbles. Whenever he's at my house, he follows my bf everywhere. I hate everything about him. He's the ugliest little fat ** I've ever seen. My bf has called him a mistake. Idk why he insists on ever picking him up. HE STANDS AND STARES. He. Just. Stares. I tell him to stop. He doesn't. He's like a stupid fat dog. He always stares at people with food. Even if he just ** ate. He has a retarded half brother. They get in fights. I worry about him hurting my son. My bf makes excuses for him. I feel so much hatred for that little ** that I shake with rage. He doesn't respond to **. Just stands and stares. He's even uglier when he smiles. My life would be so much better if he was gone. He's just a waste of space. He shouldn't even ** exist. Seriously, though, I buy food mainly for me and my children. I share with my bf. He needs to buy food for his own kid. I'm not providing food and drinks to a fat little ** I don't want. He eats more than I do. I love my bf dearly. I just wish he'd pay child support and just drop the kid from his life.
I want to add that my bf has said that he'd give the kid up for adoption if the Mom would sign her rights away. The mother doesn't want him but insists on keeping her rights. I honestly wish they'd disappear. I hate him so much that I've actually thought about killing him. I want him to cease his existence altogether. I would never do that. I just hate him that much.
I feel exacly the same
Killing him? Err... that's going a little too far, you'll end up spending your life behind bars and for what a **? I've dealt with a mentally ill ** most recently so I should know it doesn't end good... LEAVE if you are unhappy.
As I stated earlier, I would never do that. I just hate him a lot. What was your situation like?
Long story short - crazy ** who is off her head. Hard to handle, can hear noises, any noise makes her angry, smashes things goes on rampage in home. Had to get her support to shut her the ** up. I want to get away from this moron, but can't I'm stuck with them for who knows how long? But I am planning to leave, haha! Then they can do all that bull-** to their hearts desire. You see nobody helps or takes away these "ADULT" mentally ill people. They allow them to be "free". I want the freak, locked up. I've secretly complained behind their back, but it does nothing... probably because they do all the mental retardation from inside their home...
Worst of all the idiot won't take her meds... She's ten times worse without them - like bat-** insane.
I hate to break it to you **-hat your bf ain't dropping the little **.
My bf has literally said that if the kid's mother signed her rights away, he would put him up for adoption. I honestly don't know why she doesn't. She seems to hate him even more than I do.
I totally understand you!!!!
No one says the truth and lie "these children are gods gifts ect" bananas no!!
They strain life, waste food, money spent, cannot do a basic thing like grocery shop
So much effort put into them and they talk back, lie treat you like ** and are very dirty I lost count on how many times I sweeped the floor and clean!!! And if you are a angry/emotional and tired from this and try to vent to your spouse that their child is too much "your a horrible person" I feel like a maid then a wife or so called "parent" bananas no they see you as a maid that parent! Even the other normal child who's 7!
This is what I feel on daily basis when it's too much; 1. Hurt 2. Sad 3. Angry 4 misunderstood 5. Shamed cause they assume I don't know how to parent when I do 6 judged from my husband cause he thinks I'm too stern when I only ask for respect and understanding when I want to explode and cry. . . Every step parent needs an award for how much ** we take!!!
:'( and you stay because you love your spouse
Nailed it! I'm in pretty much the same situation with my wife & stepson, although I REFUSE to clean up after him. Let mom do it, maybe some day she'll get fed up with his total laziness and TRY to straighten him out. Which I doubt. Wish there was a support group for this.
Your an **! You definitely do not understand individuals with special needs. This child and his mother would be better off without you.
Your an **, regards shou l be placed on an island and let them try to survive! They should be used as prey for hunting.
Retards should be aborted at birth
Haha, "aborted at birth"? You mean before birth dear....speaking of retards lol
Haha! Shut the ** up you fucktard. P.S there is supposed to be a space between the ".....".
I Hate my stepson more than anyone in this whole world he is an ungrateful little ** and mentally retarded he cries all day and never listens and has buck teeth and looks and sounds like a little girl and I'm seriously considering divorce because I can't handle it at all anymore , I am becoming a person I'm not because of it and it drives me nuts, about to just give up and go back to my old life I was much happier and I would never allow my husband to stop seeing his son either it's just not my problem also he knows how I feel and continues to leave him with me in my house and the ungrateful brat is wasting my food time and energy , time to file for divorce i need my peace
I understand how you feel as I am in a similar position however I don't hate him but I am finding it hard to cope and would prefer not having him around. I have a 2yr old and a newborn and sometimes in the middle of the night he ** himself and always has a wet diaper. He is ruining my marriage as I get little time with my husband because he wants him to be in the bed with him, I love my husband very much but I don't think I can stay in this marriage because I refuse to spend my years changing diapers​ of a soon to be teenager. It's not fair to me or him and I have no help from his family members and it's unfair for me to take on full responsibility of this special needs child I can't love him like a mother and it's not fair for him to get a cold shoulder but I just can't stand him anymore
I understand completely. I am becoming a totally different person as well, because of a spoiled, coddled, and generally disgusting AS stepchild. I have none of the joy I used to have in life. Just fleeting moments of contentment until I have to see or hear (or even smell) that lazy POS. I can barely stand to be in the same house as him, let alone the same room. These feelings go against everything I ever was or felt or believed about myself; yet I cannot stop experiencing them. I try, but nothing ever helps, except being out of his sight and presence. I fantasize about leaving and living by myself and my own kids all the time. I really do think that time will come. And my wife will have only herself and her son to blame. No adult child (who is supposedly "high-functioning") should be babied as he is; it's sickening. The prospect of living with this situation for the rest of my life causes me daily anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts. Just wish he'd go live on his own or with his father but I know that will never happen. Pray for me.
Good for you! I hope your divorce is finalized soon! I'd rather live with a serial killer than with a retarded kid.
I think your just a **
U are saying what many other people feel, but would not dare say. The people who responded harshly are either lying to themselves or never cared for anyone retarded, now called intelligently disabled. I feel they are a strain on families and society. They serve no real purpose and are not productive citizens, just burdens. My boyfriends daughter is a retarded adult. She cannot read, write, tie shoes, style her own hair nor cook. She works at a meaningless job, which gives a stipend. The stipend is very small. People like her is costing tax payers a lot of money for funded programs. I feel it''s a waste. I don't know what the answer is, but I wish they all would go away.
Honestly shoot your self in the ** face you dumb . ** I would ** my pants too if I knew you hated it . your completely the reason what's wrong with world. People like you ruin people's lives. Take your missable daughter to foster care and kill your self
Someones mad their child ** their pants
You sound like you're a special person who has stumbled across us non-tards revealing how we really feel about your ** antics. Just ** off and deal with the fact that most people aren't interested in putting up with your **.
You are messed up, you don't deserve kids, help yourself before you try and go near him, get serious brain help did it not occur to you that he might have a learning disability, fml some people don't deserve kids and you are the prime example of why smh
I'm in the same boat. I got with a younger woman and wasnt thinking at all. I was just out of a bad situation and was a single father, wish i' d kept it that way. But we now have a baby. I feel like a fool shes only here to lay o. Her ** but whats worse is her kids are both brain dead. I can't believe it. They are 10 and almost 13.
The boy can now read 3 letter words because ive made him i ** hate his guts and hers for allowing this **. The girl 10 is brain ** dead cant remember her abc's cant spell cat it do is just they have never been taught. I had a nice home its gone to ** because no one gives a ** anymore i got her a nice ride it smells like a ** trash can it is a trash can. Food wrappers junk dirty mess. I am so ** at her i hate her ** how could she not care her kids cant even read. Tbey cant even talk normal. They know zero plurals its always i do not i should not go outside. Or about the baby her crying she want bottle. I hate tbem the boy was trying to ** his sister on the trampoline and tbe mother does nothing he tben ask to ** a neighbors ** and tbe mother does nothing. I just know he will molest my daughter if i divorce her and im not there. But like above poster yes ive tried to help the stupid ** learn how to to read and he ingores me. I wish he would move in with his gma. His dads a convicted repeat child molester. Hes gonna be the same. I really worry about him i wish hed go play on the train tracks but he wont leave his video games and ** cartoons to go play tbe girl is just brain dead 10 years old nearly 11 and cant read ** not a ** tbing. Why did her mother let it get this far wtf. Will my daughter be retarded like them. I hope not. My life is ** over have to baby sit slobs and retards forever so he doesn't molest my baby.
Kill your self
You are a piece of **. Never tell someone to kill his or herself! Kids are not perfect angels. A lot of them are ** and special needs children are no exception. This is called "confessionpost." She was venting. ** you and your self-righteous **, you evil son-of-**!
Never tell someone to kill themself you **. we have it easy here compared to kids starving in ethiopia. nobody has to kill themselves.
You kill yourself **!
Hahahahahahahhahaha! That's funny... STEP UP YOU STUPID MAN! Your the dad right? TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER AND LEAVE!!! GET CUSTODY!!!! DUUUUUUUuuuuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhh!
About time someone says the truth. ** this **. Every day I look at my autistic 4 year old stepson I want to strangle his manipulative ** neck. He knows ** well he's an ** and because he's autistic it makes it OK? Don't judge if you don't have one, you have zero room. When I get woken at 1, 2, 3, 4 in the morning because he's losing his ** when his socks aren't sitting right on his feet, or he lost his stuffed animal that's sittning on his god damned pillow, I hold back punching his petty ** face. It's like living with a dog you hate that never does what you say, ** on the floor and doesn't acknowledge you unless it wants something or benefits him. I hope he never reproduces and makes anyone suffer ever again.
My soon to be stepson is autistic and he ** and ** himself all the time! He's almost 9! It's ** disgusting! He grates on all of our nerves even his father though he won't admit it. He's a pain in the ** **, and the truth is life would be easier without him! That being said, I do my best to work with him, bond with him which is near if impossible, and he is never treated badly. But it perfectly okay to vent true feelings and frustrations when dealing with these kind of kids!
My stepson is Aspergers and its so hard
Don't get married, it will only get worse with a ** ** in the house.
I afraid of getting married to my man....because of his son. I'm so angry I ever started dating this guy. I'm uncomfortable in my own house when he has him only 2 days a month. I see my future completely destroyed. And I wanted to have my last chance at having a kid,this stupid kid ruins that for me.
Have you thought about leavinh
Yesssss!!!!! Thank you!!!!!
Lol... If ya'll can't handle these kids have them sent to a children's home somewhere where they'll get the help they need, the help you can't give.
MMR autism, just because they are autistic doesn't make them thick, in fact, autistic children can be extremely intelligent bit like a human computer, but without a keyboard and monitor screen, there is no way to communicate with the computer, if you catch my drift.
Man, I feel the same way. I am with a woman (not married) that has a child with autisim and when I met him he was 10 and he was not bad at all, But now he is 13 and he is WAY worse now. He says the stupidest things, he makes me ashamed to take him out in public because of his odd behavior, he has a habit of touching his self no matter where we are and that is my biggest concern because I have a 6 year old daughter and if he try anything on her he will have a rude awakening. Me and the woman I am with have a child together (boy) but I also have children that live with me. I am thinking about taking my kids and getting my own place because I feel like things with the autistic child will only get worse and honestly I don't like the kid, he is more then I want to deal with, if he was my own child I would have to learn to deal with him.... but he is not my child and not any of my children have these issues. I am near bailing point.
I understand. Same here. But I took on two of them. Cartoon watching morons. I hate their guts. Ive tried not to but I do and her for letting it go this far.
Dude, for the love of God, do NOT get married. I wish I hadn't. Just like you said, my autistic SS was "not so bad" at the beginning. Now I cannot stand to be in the same house, let alone same room, as him. It's like they know to hold back the '**, until you're so involved with the parent that it's hard to get out. I wouldn't care how poor I'd be and what kind of ** place I'd have to live in; I'd take divorce over living with the spoiled, lazy, inconsiderate, ungrateful, overweight, unsanitary, mouth-breathing weirdo that I have to.
I wonder why most of them seem to be overweight. At least the ones I've met/seen. In my situation, the boy is really young. He's gotten so much worse in a year. Almost like his retardation is progressing. Like he's getting more and more retarded as he ages. I just hope special school helps him. If it doesn't, he'll be so much worse.
My SS was a normal weight- his mom is a fat pig. He's lazy- his IEP says in PE he choses the elliptical...but never works hard enough to get his heart-rate going. He's now 21 and won't be going back go school...his mom does not have him in any activities and I've noticed this summer he has been putting on weight especially around the stomach. My husband's family has a history of heart issues and I'm holding out for the s***-head to have a heart attack and the sooner the better.
Somehow I don't think a heart attack will happen, unless you hook the fucktard on energy drinks.
I know right, retards... can't live without 'em can't grind 'em into chalk dust.
It's because their mothers (most of the time, the ones with primary custody) put them on psychoactive drugs that cause weight gain and also stuff them full of ** processed foods because they can't be bothered to put in the difficult work to get them to progress as they're content to have giant retarded children and pretend they're sweet little angels. They're not. Everyone else sees them as overgrown retards with coddling, delusional, lazy mothers.