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Retarded Step Son
I hate my step son with every fiber of my being. We used to only have him every other weekend and I would just hide in my room those weekends. Now we have him 100% of the time and he is driving me INSANE. I think about divorce at least once/week just because of this ** **. He did horribly in public school, so his dad decided I should homeschool him. He is ten years old, but my three year old is smarter than him. More than once, my three year old has answered a question that the little fuckwad didn't know the answer to. He can't do simple mathematics, can hardly read (and chooses to read my daughter's board books when he's forced to read), still can't spell three letter words, etc etc etc. I will present information to him in a million ways and try to make it as fun and as exciting for him as possible and he won't grasp a ** lick of it.
He still ** AND ** himself. No joke, one day I kept smelling something foul and couldn't figure out where it was coming from. I thought maybe the cats and taken a dump, so I cleaned their box.... NOPE. I smelled it all through breakfast and while I did my morning chores. I took a shower and had to pass his room and realized that I smelled the stench again. STILL didn't occur to me that the idiot had ** himself, so I went downstairs. About thirty minutes later, he was on the couch (watching ** Thomas the Train, because he is a COMPLETE AND UTTER **) and I FINALLY realized that the smell was coming from him. He NEVER EVER responds when you talk to him, so I just asked if he knew he smelled. NO RESPONSE. Then it hit me - HE ** HIS ** PANTS. I say "Did you ** your pants?" and he just stares at me. Eventually he says "I guess I'll go take a bath." UH DUHHHHH!!! Did you really ** eat breakfast, play with toys, and watch tv ALL WHILE SITTING IN YOUR OWN **? Yes, he did. And Daddy Dearest doesn't ** care. UGH.
He ** his pants CONSTANTLY. I find pissy underwear hidden all the time. I even found a stash of my daughter's pull ups that he'd ** in and hidden under his desk. STILL, Daddy Dearest doesn't give a **.
He is also ugly as **. He has buck teeth that are brighter than the sun and I want to punch them out of his scrawny ** face every time he stares at me when I ask a simple question.
My daughter adores him and tries to play with him, but gets so frustrated because he won't ever respond to anything she says. I eventually have to yell "RESPOND WHEN SHE TALKS TO YOU, PLEASE!" and he'll eventually say something totally ** stupid.
He is a complete follower with no imagination or personality of his own. When he is around his significantly younger cousins, he copies everything they say and do and laughs when he has no ** idea what is going on.
He has like three chores that he has to do every day (make his bed, empty the trash from the bathrooms, and put his laundry away). YET every single day, if you don't break it down ** Barney style for him, he "forgets" how to do them. Seriously. The other day I told him to take care of the trash and he came down with his arms full of used toilet paper and pads and ** because he "forgot" that he was just supposed to take the bags out and replace them. WTF? THAT IS A SPECIAL KIND OF RETARDED!!! Literally EVERY SINGLE DAY, I have to tell him how to do his chores again.
His NANA, who lives right across the street, babies him like ** crazy. She still picks him up and carries him on her hip through stores (he is small for his age) and rocks him. HOLY **, I cannot stand it. She thinks that he is right on track academically (nevermind that I had to purchase kindergarten curriculum instead of grade 5 after realizing that he didn't even know all of his letters) and that it is other kids who are "too advanced". She tells my husband that it is completely normal for him to pee and ** himself and that it will just go away. SOOOO DH doesn't do ** and just lets him run around completely uneducated and having more accidents than my potty trained three year old. Oh! And one time, my daughter had colored stuffed blocks with her and ** said "This one is blue!" and Nana actually said "Good job!" and made a giant ** stink about the idiot knowing what blue looks like.
I am embarrassed to take him in public because people have literally asked if something was wrong with him. So I just stay locked up in my house with the ** ** all day long.
Dude your a ** piece of **....Spend some time with your stepson and figure out whats really going on....Maybe he takes after his stepdad u **....You married her kids too you know have some ** responsibility fuckwad
Walk don't run to the nearest exit with your precious daughter and keep on going AWAY from the mix made in **!!!
He may be autistic
You need help yourself!!!
This is completely normal to feel for a child that's not your own. Evolution dictates it. Other animals would not even allow another child that's not their own around them - they literally eat them. Not saying you should, of course! I'm just saying that these instincts are more primal than one might think. Being a step-parent is extremely difficulty, and I've done it for 10 years. The reality is, when faced with a choice between your own child and one that is not your own, you will ALWAYS favour your own. They look like you, and act like you. It's called being HUMAN. The level of hostility indicated that your situation is unsustainable, and I've been there as well. I know this is 3.4 years ago, so I may be talking to someone not listening, but here is my point anyways. It's ok to feel this way, but it's also an indicator you need to GET OUT. This can only lead to something bad happening, so please to get out, and either leave this woman or have the kid stay elsewhere. Sorry to break it to you, but no easy solution here.
What worries me more is the way you talk about a child like that, when there is clearly something really wrong with him. You shouldn't have gotten involved with the family in the first place if you couldn't handle things. And with a foul mouth like that, I fear for your 3 year old!
Keep your uppity opinion to yourself until you have lived a day in this poor step-parent's life. I am in a similar situation. Albeit not quite as severe. I totally agree with how you feel OP. I frequently daydream about curb stomping my Autistic stepdaughter American History X style
Yes! ** all these judgmental people! My stepson is autistic and he's a **! I'd love to punt his ** into the woods or some **! Stupid ** little **!
I understand him. I fear for my baby yall will really hate me after reading my responce. I cant understand how its ok to not give a ** if your kids can read and write. How about him ** his sister how is this ok? I hate the little dumb **. Tbe girl i just feel sorry for she is a pretty kid with a good personality but she is dumb as a rock. Im just at the end of my rope. I didnt know tbey were like that. Ive spent two years trying to teach them. Im tired of it. They dont want to learn. Back to back autistic children is not common i ask my doctor he said drugs
You're an ** too!
** you! What do you know, you judgmental piece of **!
I shouldn't laugh, but I am at this part: He is also ugly as f***. He has buck teeth that are brighter than the sun and I want to punch them out of his scrawny f****** face every time he stares at me when I ask a simple question.
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Public School, that'll sort him out... well the other kids will make his buck teeth that shine brighter than the sun a living nightmare...
This kid really must be retarded. You need to put him back in public school and get him in a special ed program, stat!
I don't have any children
Omg. Have you been stalking me and actually wrote this about my life? And I really ** hate my step tards gramma. My step ** is also very small for his age so she carries him around and just treats him like an infant in general. Every summer when he goes with his dad who just dumps him off on gramma she puts him back in diapers and un-potty trains him. She also dresses him, holds his fork to feed him, and spoils him beyond belief. After every summer when he gets home he has lost so much muscle that he can barely walk on his own. And when I don't baby him like she does he goes to school and tells them that I hit and choke him. I ** hate him and can't wait until he is old enough to enter a ** group home.
Steptard!!!! Love it! Gonna use that one!
Lol... that was the solution to begin with dumb **.
I completely understand your post. I'm there with my AS stepson. Those who don't live this situation, just can't possibly understand it. I appreciate your post... I'm looking on the web now after giving myself permission to feel the way I do, and looking to see if I was the only one with those feelings (glad to see I am not).
The boy in question has completely destroyed my career, finances (we lost our house), my relationship with the mother, and frankly... my sanity. There's not a minute I don't think about divorcing his mother, but don't for the sake of our other child.
I might add, he has also utterly destroyed his mum in the process. She used to be a goddess, now she is a bitter, depressed and broken person. Every few hours, the little ** does something that drives her nuts, and she gets angry, then turns that anger on the rest of the family and herself because she feels bad taking it out on the him.
For those who can't understand how this feels, just imagine a child who takes everything from everyone, from his mum, sister, me, and the school and his biological father and his new family (oh they suffer just as much as we do btw, although not financially), without giving anything back, without a SINGLE SINCERE WORD OF THANKS ever.
I sometimes look at the boy and wonder... how can anyone be 10yo and not have ever given a hug or kind word to anyone else FOR THAT PERSON not themselves in their whole life?
An child like that... is not a person... it is a huge sucking void in people's lives.
It's called autism. Look it up. The word is self explanatory. Auto = self. It's about ones self. Always. They can't relate. Not a choice.
Doesn't mean they should be allowed to be **!
Exactly. I'm sick to death of the "well he has aspergers" free-pass that is given to these a*****e kids. Be a real parent and teach these kids, drill it into their heads, that there are certain societal rules and norms that they HAVE to follow if they ever wish to be "accepted" and be "treated like everyone else." I love those stupid posts on facebook... "special needs kids just want to be treated like everyone else." Sure, that's all well and good, but what I just said applies there. Funny though, I don't see my SS as an asperger kid, I just see him as an a*****e. So I do treat him no different than I would any other a*****e. It's his mom and dad and family that treat him "special" but they want the whole world to treat him as if he's not... until you criticize him, then they throw out the Autism Card. It's infuriating.
My son is on the autistic spectrum and he is very sincere and grateful. He's an honor roll student and enjoys reading about ancient history. But he's distractable and clumsy and a slow talker.
My partner's daughter, however, is incredibly spoiled. She has a "meltdown" whenever someone mentions that she isn't perfect ("Please don't walk around the house naked")...dad "de-escalates" the meltdown by telling her over and over what a beautiful princess she is (she looks like a gorilla) and she holds us hostage for her twice-daily xanax by following us around the house bothering us with circular conversation.
Autism expresses itself differently in different people.
I dont give a ** who hates me for saying this, but trying to get pregnant and I swear to God I would either abort it or give it up entirely rather than deal with Autism, Down's, or a all out ducking **. I have been reading experiences like these just to reinforce that harder in my head if I am ever presented with any of that. Thank you step parents for being honest. I would probably smother one. I cannot and will not deal with it. Sorry, not sorry.
Smothering a kid because it isn't perfect? Really? Don't bother getting pregnant, get professional help instead before you hurt someone.
That you "cannot and will not" accept your potential child's difficulties in life speaks volumes about your immaturity.
You are too funny. I agree with her, actually. I aborted my Downs baby and my husband and I agree that our lives are SO much happier and more fulfilled. Just because someone else's Truth does not coincide with your opinion of what you think it should be doesn't mean a thing. It is their life, not yours.
I'd take a Down Syndrome child over Asperger's any day. At least they're happy, loving, and seem generally motivated to DO SOMETHING WITH THEIR LIVES. Aspies are lazy POS's that have zero motivation except for eating and playing video games. Seriously, my step-"son" (I hate even using the word; the kid is NOT mine, has no blood of mine whatsoever, so even thinking in terms of "son" makes me cringe) does NOTHING but eat and sit on XBox and his computer. Over 300 pounds, since probably around age 12-13 (18 now). Granted a lot of that has to do with the biological parents and their lack of trying to make some kind of productive citizen out of this sponge of a human being. Aspies may be special needs, but from my experience (and I know more than one) they aren't THAT special; needs wise. They CAN grow and learn and adapt; they just choose NOT to. I think they're just smart enough to know they can manipulate parents and family and the system to enable their own ** selfish laziness. But more to your point; I don't agree with aborting an abnormal child and certainly not infanticide. But I can understand the thinking behind the aborting notion. I pray for patience in dealing with this SS, and my situation isn't as bad as some of the other people's who are posting here, but ** it is difficult. I also contemplate divorce and/or leaving to get my own place just because of this lazy ungrateful unsanitary weird-** man-child I have to live with for possibly the rest of my life.
Hugs. It sounds like you are suffering from caregiver burnout. If possible leave him with someone for a day or two, take a breath, a hot shower, doll up, and relax. After that you may need to seek counseling so you can share with your husband how you feel in a constructive manner. Look into some respite care for him. One step at a time it will get better!
You sound like a **
Isn't there programs for this like a group home he can go to ..
No one has the right to judge you , I am sorry you are going threw this ..
Are you sane. Humans judge everything and everyone. I feel terrible for the boy for the crazy sick **'s daughter. Anybody that has ever had to be around this ugly vile disgusting person. I personally would rather die than be assick as this **. No offense to normal ** intended. ** could you imagine the shame the husband must have realing he married the female version of Pol-Pot?
That is the funniest freakin' post ever! Definitely get out while you can. Sounds like grammy dearest can pick up where you left off. They'll all be one happy family. I'm a mom of an autistic stepson, and there are so many times I wish I could say what you just said. Hats off for being brave enough to speak your mind. Don't listen to what these other judgemental people say, no one understands til they've been thru it. And an autistic son is very different than an autistic stepson, I don't care what people say. Never hold your concerns inside, you'll end up hurting someone or yourself. Thanks for the laugh. :)
Omg lmao x1000!!!!!!!!!! This was INCREDIBLY HILARIOUS!!!!!!! I have a friend who is dealing with the ** and I am well-entertained with her stories!!!! I don't have kids so I could never understand!!! I would probably throw my retarted kid away if I was his or her parent!!!!! Thank you for the laugh!!!! Bravo!!!!
You sound evil
Get out and get hit by a ** bus and have to sit in your ** pants for months because noone can stand to be sround your ** delf. ** everyone that defends this sick **. Please get out indeed. The young man deserves much better. Man the husband must be the dumb one in the family.
Diaf **
Yes! She's the sick person when you're saying she should go get hit by a bus. Eat a **, you piece of **!