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Scared I will Never Get a White Woman Pregnant
I am in my late 40s.I am so scared that I will grow old and die without having a child with a white woman.
I am in my late 40s.I am so scared that I will grow old and die without having a child with a white woman.
^He is completely correct^. Like yours, my wife had been thoroughly trustworthy throughout our marriage, morally upright, very proper in public, deeply involved in our church: she was the perfect wife to me and the perfect mother to our two children. Then, one evening I came home from work a couple hours earlier than normal (and had forgotten to call to let her know), and I walked in on her with what I later learned was her "black bull" [I apologize to any readers who find that racist, but that is the phrase they both used then and still use]. That was shocking enough, believe me, but I was even more shocked by the fact that neither of them even slightly pretended to hide what they were doing to each other (I cannot describe the ** acts here without being censored or reported): in fact, they didn't even stop. They just continued what they were doing once they realized I was present, like it was a perfectly normal thing. So, please do what ^this gentleman^ recommends and talk CANDIDLY with your wife. It seems to me that she has been giving you signals about what's happening in her life in general, and in her ** life in particular. He's right: she's human and she is almost certainly already out getting what her body and her heart are telling her she needs, because you can be sure that you aren't giving that to her. There's nothing wrong with what she's doing: you just need to prepare yourself to hear it. And then to live with it.
Love it,love it love it! You said it so succinctly and I simply love it. I love the use of your personal incident, the use of the words black bull,CANDIDLY,signals, and the way you summed the whole thing up.We live in a complicated world,no man owns a woman and no woman owns a man.Married or not,people will always find a way to satisfy an unmet need-almost like in a demand and supply situation. I strongly suggest that this guy takes time to learn what the wife has been up to.From what he stated,I think his wife is sleeping with some black guy,loving it,hinting to hubby about it,but hubby is so trusting to imagine that his white wife would even have an interest in some black guy. He needs to open his mind and heart and do the candid talking.And he seems like a guy who can live with it happily ever after. Thanks for what you said and how you said it:)
Hi again and I especially appreciate your thoughts on the use of "black bull": to be honest, I was rather worried about using it (as a white male), for the obvious reasons, even though in my own mind I meant no disrespect by it. My wife calls him that, and he calls himself that as well, but that doesn't always make it okay for the white husband to use it, if you know what I mean. He is totally her stud, and she is totally his sexual property (again here, they use an otherwise derogatory word: he calls her, and she calls herself, his "**" or his "**"). Both of those things (stud and property), although totally true, are sometimes difficult concepts to handle from my perspective, and neither of them make any effort to ease the situation for me, although I completely get the fact that they aren't obligated to do that, and shouldn't think of me in developing and continuing to grow their own relationship, so I guess maybe I'm just venting. Anyway, I also appreciate your providing this incredible forum, and this venue for others to share their own views and experiences, but most of all I appreciate your own input, which is simultaneously wise and beneficial and **. Thanks for all you do.
Thanks for your kindness...you are most welcome. I have learned a lot from this post believe it or not.Please keep us posted on the progress of their relationship and your take on it.Happy New Year.