Big marraige problem part 2
I know what you are thinking, maybe i have put on weight, maybe i am fat or ugly. What i know is that i still have woman at work complimenting me, flirting with me with no agenda. I am not their superior or in any position to affect their promotion. I have woman taking a second look at me on the streets and i have woman making passes at me. Having said that, i am no brat pitt or channing tatum.
I told my wife about having more s** in a day than just once and she agreed. The first time was immense pain, the second was not as pain but still no pleausre. I always love to see my partner's pleasurable face during s** but this never happens in my marriage. To make things worst, she got UTI right after we had s** twice in a day. I always wash myself before s**.
After visitng the obgyn, he said that she should wash herself everytime after s**. The doc also mentioned that she has a small v***** but not small enough to require surgery.
She is quite dry in terms of vaginal lubricant, so it takes while for her to get wet and before i can try penetration. This means no spontaneous s**. I tried a few times to touch her while she's sleeping but all i get is rejection.
Wake up b******
I did mentioned to my wife that i have a fantasy of being woken up by a b******. I even repeated myelf several times. She said ok. But after more than 2 years, she never did it once. The closest one happened on one of my birthday. She woke me up and then tried to blow me. I told her that the idea was not to wake me up first and immediately go for it while i am still asleep. To date, it never happen again. She has not given me a b****** while i am asleep.
After much thinking through, the crux of the problem is that she has very low libido. She doesnt need s** at all. If i dont initiate, she can go more than 3 months without s**. As for me, i have super high libido. I want s** almost daily, i want spontaneous s**, i want morning s**, lunch time s** and overnight s**.
I asked her once if she has been sexually abused as a kid, she said no.
My solution to the problem, masturbation. I have been masturbating to p*** almost daily. She doesnt mind me watching p*** but i never showed her that i m********* to p***. It comes to a point where i think i have a internet p*** masturbation addiction, which i think i have kicked. It does comes back occasionally. We watched p*** together a few times and and she gets turned on. But she told me that according to christianity, is wrong to watch p***. So we stopped it totally.
The obgyn recommended taking some alcohol, i love to drink but my wife hates the taste of alcohol. She did try a few sips but totally hate it. After she force down a few small drinks, she becomes sleepy and wants to sleep.
My wife got pregnant about 6 months ago and we only had s** like once or twice since. Total number of b******* in this period, maybe 3.
My wife's qualities
Being a conservative wife, she is excellent at dealing with household matters. She will really clean up the house during the days when she is not working, she will ensure all laundy is done and the house is clean ans tidy.
Emotionally, she is very stable, she never suspects me with other woman, she give me a lot of freedom to hang out with my friends. She is very independent and can do a lot of things herself.
She is a very thrifty person, she never overspend, she never ask me to buy expensive things for her. She has a good amount of savings from her own salary and always buys her stuff with her own money. She never complains that i dont earn a lot of money and never compares me with her friends who have successful husband.