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Get Her Pregnant?
So my kids mom is going to be 30 this summer.I already have 2 sons with her, who are now toddlers.She and I have never really gotten along for the last 6 years that we have known each other. We have joint custody of the sons and we do our best to be civil and get by.She is the one who did not want me after the kids were born saying am too old for her,though she says I give her the best **. In any case,the youngest son is now 4.She found out, the other day,that her friend is pregnant, with her 2nd child. She started texting me,from the friend's house-I believe,that her biological clock is ticking and she wants another baby, or possibly twin girls.I told her there are plenty of men to give her twins.She said she will consider adopting even a relative, so that she can avoid pregnancy and labor pains, and I asked her if she had looked at the adoption costs online,which she checked and got shocked. When I got up today,I decided this: as awful and mean as she has been to me,I am going to meet with her and propose getting her pregnant for up to 2 kids.I KNOW SHE WILL SAY YES. My reasoning is this;When I first me her,she never wanted,and I don't want her, to have kids from two different men.I feel its bad for our sons.If she has kids from someone else,I don't want to have to pick mine up, for visitation, and leave the other ones behind,but I also don't want to take another guy's kids with me either.This is partly because I don't want to explain that to my sons,and also she does not like my grown kids from a previous marriage.She is hard working and getting to be an ok mother,though she will never be a wife to me.Please tell me what you think and feel. Sorry its so long.Thanks.
I do understand it, and I sympathize: I know you're being pulled in multiple directions. Younger women are a treasure, aren't they, I mean when they are sane? LOL. These two were both 24 years younger than me, and although I had kids with my first wife when I was in my 20s and thought I was done with children and parenting, I had decided I wanted another child (just one more) with Girl Two and she wanted it as well, and she would have been a terrific mom and wife. In fact, I got her pregnant during the time we were living together, but the lure of Girl One's ** and her incredible BJs was too much for me to resist, and when Girl Two found out I was going back for encores, she blew up (or cracked up) and went and had an abortion without saying anything to me about it. Girl One said Girl Two faked the pregnancy to keep me home and then lied about the abortion when she found out about my returns to Girl One, so I didn't know what to believe. I never had kids with Girl One, and thank God, because that girl simply doesn't have it in her to love anyone even a fraction as much as she loves herself. Sorry to be longwinded. I really hope your situation works out to your benefit, I seriously do. After reading more of your subsequent responses to other's posts, it seems that you and your lady may have something going that is beyond the simple fact that you have children together, and that something could be love. It would be a difficult, trying and exhausting kind of love, for sure, but as young as she is, and as much as she wants you in her life (and your babies in her womb), she may very well change enough to make a life with her supportable. It certainly sounds like the ** is MORE than good enough to make it work, and I'm one of those who believe that exceptionally good ** is an indication of more than just a combination of two people who know how to **. Your lady may just be finding her way, and it may well be that she needs - and wants - you to lead her. Good luck!
Thanks and best of luck to you too...I wish a lived in a predictable drama free world!