Secretly I'm falling apart

I was offered a paralegal position in a very busy fast paced law office. I have no experience and I have over 100 cases and I have no idea what I'm doing. The office manager who is supposed to be training me doesn't have time. My boss also signed me up for a class for paralegal certification from 5:30-8:30 Tuesday and Thursday nights. Between work, homework, commuting, and everything I never get to spend time with my husband or my 2 year old son. I need this job to support our family. I can't quit. But there is nothing I want more than to be a stay at home mom. I cry every night when I look at my son because I miss him and he misses me. I hate that Im away from him so much. I love him and my husband more than anything. I look like I'm holding it all together. But in reality I'm a nervous wreck and I feel like the worst mom in the world

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  • Good friend of mine was a paralegal for a year. She always said "It's all the stress of being a lawyer, without the pay". She quit, and now makes twice as much bartending.

  • I'm a paralegal and it's stressful and there's a lot to know. If the job is your dream keep pushing your bosses hard for the help you need. If it's not your dream, then it's not worth it. Good luck.

  • Maybe things will be better once class ends? Also, how much do you actually enjoy your job? If it is not a good fit, maybe a career change is in order. But be careful about doing anything rash. Think things through. If you do quit your job, it might be hard to find another with that level of pay and responsibility. Future employers could think, "Hmm, maybe she left her last position because she can't handle stress?"

  • My wife worked some nights weekends when our son was little. I changed jobs to be with him. I missed him when he was smaller for almost three months.
    Try a job with less stress and when he is in school try the paralegal work

  • Guess you need to figure out what's best for you and your family. If you can make it work on less $$, then you should do what is best. It's not very often in this job market that an employer takes on a less qualified applicant and pays to train them. If you need your manager to train you, you need speak up and ask. Set up a meeting with them. But if you want to spend time with your child, then your options are to quit and you live on a lot less. And maybe look for another part time job or even a work from home situation. Again, they may not pay as much but if means you can spend more time with your child then maybe it will be worth it. But really, only you can decide.

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