Do I give up?
I've been involved with a man for 8 months now. We met online through common interests and clicked immediately. We talk on the phone every day, and we have Skyped multiple times before, though now it is rare since he is very busy and tired. We have never physically met.
This relationship leaves me wondering whether or not I'm being unreasonable, I'll explain later why. There's no one I can talk to about this because of how complex it is.
(He calls me his gf and considers himself my boyfriend. I feel the same, although I feel weird calling him that since we haven't officially met, despite talking everyday)
Because of how busy he is it's rare that we speak during the day. He calls when he can and I am overjoyed but... he never calls when he says he will. He uses words like "Calling... soon... shortly... in 10 minutes.." but when the time comes he isn't around and I usually end up waiting another hour or so (I do attempt to call him).
When he does call, I am upset, and it always surprises him as to why. Is it really unreasonable for me to expect the man to keep his word?
I get it if it's every now and then but this happens every day and usually late at night since he claims to be busy (which I don't entirely believe, because how? He doesn't even work on weekdays, although he does go out on errands and takes short classes twice a week.) Also, if he were to just TELL me he can't talk, instead of giving me false hope, I'd completely get it but I hate waiting because I can't get that time back. It's important to me that I hear from him though.
I'll admit to being resentful because I have rearranged my life in order to MAKE time for him. I don't think he realizes to the full extent that if I didn't do that we would have no time for each other...
I tell him all of this of course, but the issue never gets solved. He throws a pity party for himself, says he'll try harder, and says he wishes I was more understanding.
It's a difficult situation already. I just want more effort on his part and for his ACTIONS to match his words.
I can admit to being impatient, but one's patience grows thin when this literally happens EVERYDAY. It's hard to understand when I can't see his life and when I have put things aside in my own life for him.
This is putting a strain on our relationship, as I feel myself beginning to lose a desire for him. But I'd feel bad ending it before we even truly began I.e. see how it is in person! I want to work things out and see how I can improve. Tell me HOW to be/practice understanding. Tell me if I am being unreasonable or selfish, explain why, and tell me what I need to do please. I love the guy and I've never connected with anyone mentally, emotionally, and spiritually like I have with him. Please help. :(