Too old to have kids?

I always wanted to marry and have kids but it never happened. I am now 50. I like a lady who is 37 and wants to have kids. I am just interested we are not dating, but I have considerwd asking.

I am not sure I will have the energy to be a good parent as I get older. A few of my relatives died in their 50 and 60s. I would feel awful if I wete not around to raise my kids.

I am I being selfish or foolish to have kids this late in life?

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  • Short answer: Yes you are, especially with your family history. That's not a guarantee that you've only got a few years left, but you don't ignore that kind of thing either.

    There are 7.7 billion people already on this planet, and most of them are selfish jerkoffs who aren't going to amount to much and just make other people miserable until they themselves keel over. I will never understand why people think they need to throw an innocent child or three (who they claim they'd love more than anything) into that mess. It makes no sense whatsoever.

  • If you're alright with being mistaken for the grandparent all the time go for it, I guess.

  • Dude. I always wanted a big family when I was younger. Now I am 36 with three kids and a dog, and I am counting down the days until they kids are 18 and out of the house. (Specifically, the youngest turns 18 in 2031.) It doesn't mean I don't love my kids. But trust me, guys in my situation are jealous of guys in your situation.

  • By the time your child is thirty or a bit over you may be deceased. Adopt an orphan boy or girl say eleven years or older.

  • The making of a good parent is when a person actually wants to be one.

  • The making of a GREAT parent is acknowledging reality, like realizing that it's not a good idea in the first place. If OP feels the need to nurture children, there are plenty of ways to care for ones that are already here. Any other solution is pure vanity.

  • You are not too old. You will be an older parent, but shouldn't deter you from becoming one. But the status of you and your potential baby mama - you aren't dating yet? So you may want to figure out the logistics of that relationship first. Are you going to be in a relationship? Or will you just co-parent? Hope to it!

  • If you have lots of love and patience and time to devote them, I'd say go for it!

  • I feel sad for you. Good luck with life

  • Ok f*cking ignore the comment below. I actually don't think it's too late. Yes, it's later, but not too late. If she's interested she's still young enough too. If you have children surround then with lots of people that love them. It really does take a village to raise a child. You know...none of us know when our time is up. You can have a child when you're 32 and die at 35. I have people I work with that are still active and going strong in their later 80's and early 90's. Maybe it's not ideal...but what in life is? The world is not a horrible place. Horrible things happen, but the world is a wonderful place full of magic too. Good luck no matter what you do. If you have the means maybe consider adopting an older child?

  • It's too late. You answered all your own ?'s by asking. Get a cat!
    Besides this world becoming horrible, don't do it!

  • It's too late, you answered your own ?'s, also, this world is becoming horrible, don't do it. Get a cat!

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