I raised her and now i hate her
I'm glad I'm not alone on this! I can't stand my 19 year old step daughter. My mother in law took it upon herself to one day after 6 months of dating my husband that she wanted to dump her off on me and that's exactly what she did. My husband and I took her in and I soon found out she was molested by her own grandfather and not one person stopped it. Well I put a end to it and kept her away from them people. So during this time stepdaughter who was 7 continual lied , hit herself and did inappropriate things. I got her counseling and into programs. It didn't help so I resorted to teaching her right from wrong and during the entire process all she did was lie and manipulate my husband myself and anybody else she could. I couldn't take her behavior through the years and I ended up screaming and yelling and cursing at her and my husband. Fast forward now to grades 9/12th it just got worse and the lies more bigger. I really tried to help her I even got her into a community college. well no surprise she failed 2 classes and lied bout it. Now during the 12 years I took care of her we fought daily.It's getting worse as time goes on and anything i told her well I was accused of putting her down or I was so mean . But if she wanted something then oh I was the one she went to. She constantly lied to my face on a daily basis. I could not trust or believe anything that came out of her mouth. I could imagine what horrible things she's says about me. It now came down to her getting to boot 2X and I can't and will not put up with the daily lying. I love my husband and I took care of her for him and cause I felt bad for her but this compulsive lying I just can't take it anymore. . Now I'm not saying I'm innocent cause yea I cursed her butt out and said hurtful things I shouldn't have. But after 12 years of constant lying and refusing to go to counseling or even excepting the fact that her compulsive lying is an issue well I'm cutting ties with her. It's just to much anymore. I guess I fell guilty because I love my husband so much. Am I wrong for not ever wanting to deal with her ever again? Am I the one in the wrong? Or is this just her manipulating me /us as usual????