Account Login
Best friend could be pregnant?
So last night, for Halloween, me and my friends decided to go trick or treating. We are all 14 besides a few being 15 so we wanted to get free candy for the last time before we are too old. Not even 15 minutes after we all headed out 3 of my friends (I'm calling them A, B, and C) decided to go and stay at one of their neighbors Halloween party. The rest of us didn't see the point in staying at the party so we kept going. After about 2 hours of all of us goofing off, we were going to meet up with a b and c who left the party and who now had a few more people with them. But no one knew where A went cause she strayed off from the group and we searched the neighborhood and we went back to A's house and checked at the party and we couldn't find her. With the clowns and the whole "stranger danger" we were all scared. After another hour, she called us back and when we met up with her, her hair was a mess and her makeup was smeared and her clothes weren't on right. She was bragging about how she lost her virginity to an older guy and none of us were impressed because that's just not a thing we obsess over.
Today though she was freaking out and saying how he didn't wear a condom so she's been crying and making a big deal about it all day. She acts like she doesn't want people to know but then she tells everyone and practically shouts it.
A has been acting different since she's been hanging out with these older kids and she tries to act all mature but she's been doing things that she shouldn't be doing.
I'm all down to having ** as long as you use protection and know the person (at least for 14-16).
Sounds like she wants to be treated differently. She definitely is seeking attention and support outside her family. It's a difficult thing, knowing your manhood at your age. Or womanhood.
She's torn between the comfort of old friendships and the desire for new experiences. She walks the left-hand path. Your advice to sticking to your age group is 100% since this is the only way of engaging on equal ground, though she is clearly looking for a superior authority figure. She needs a filter and she knows it. And she'll keep looking for men to piecemeal together a mental framework of how to filter herself until she has found it or burned herself out.
Getting preggers on the first jump isnt a great sign for longevity
Everything you said is exactly right. Your friend A is just not NEARLY as mature as you are, and she's insecure, and so she is pretending to be upset to get more attention from the other friends and from other people in general, and letting them know how experienced she is and how adult she is. She thinks that will make her seem bigger, smarter, more aware, etc. etc. Trust your own instincts and judgment, and don't allow her behavior to influence or change your own. You'll be fine, because you already are. Be well!