My wife's boss

My wife was the same. Not at the beginning, but eventually she just took control over EVERYTHING and it was always all about HER. I understand what you're going through and I feel your pain. I mean, I sort of feel your thrill, too, but there is so much pain with it, and sometimes there is ONLY pain. And that was when she was happiest.

Yes you are correct. And I have learned to associate the pain with love. The more she does things the more I want to please her.

Oh dear Christ......when I read what you wrote, I actually began to cry. Cry for you. Cry for me. Cry for other husbands like us (and they do exist). But I could not help but weep. "The more things she does the more I want to please her." It's been so long I had forgotten that emotion. Or maybe just I just suppressed it, and left myself behind with it. So I wept. She would do things to intentionally hurt me, or humiliate me. She would plan a date with a man and arrange for him to arrive 15 minutes before I got home from work in the evening, so that he would be "on her" as I walked in the door, and then would smile at me evilly as he pounded her in front of me, and as she explained what a man he was, and how inferior I was to him, and then they would laugh. Or we would be at dinner in a nice restaurant, and one of her lovers would come over to our table, explaining how his wife was out of town and he'd come by to pick mine up and take her home, where she'd be his wife for the night. Or she would tell our oldest daughter that "daddy is not much of a man, so I'm forced to date other men -- real men-- to get what I need". But like you said, those episodes were always followed by me, trying to do whatever was within my power to please her, or to appease her. So, I remember. The more often she hurt me, the more I would try to make her happy. I could describe so many things to you that I did, or allowed her to do to me, to make her happy. I know you understand. I knew that the second I read "The more things she does the more I want to please her." God bless you. God give you strength. God grant you peace. Your wife has so many needs.

Thank you for understanding and not criticizing me. I am sorry you went through that. The way they can manipulate us and take advantage of our love and our desires is. Unbelievable and not understood by most. Our attraction and our sensitivity and willingness to do what it takes to make our lives happy is abused by these beautiful narcissistic women. Sometimes I look at my beautiful wife and forgive her for everything even though I know she has no remorse and loves to use me