My teenage daughter is ruining my life...

I totally can relate. My situation similar but worse. Her engagement w satanic illuminati ** trafficking & TOXIC.

You have all had shared experience and I understand that you are all using this place to vent, seek help, etc. but a lot of people are saying that their endeavours to change/fix behaviour haven’t worked. But y’all have all taken things off your children and isolated them and nothing changed. If none of us can find out why our kids are acting like this maybe don’t make them feel more like ** and more attacked by taking away the things that give them joy. Everyone here needs to consider their child’s point of view, the relationship of a child and parent is the only relationship with an uneven balance of care. You all owe your children as much care as they need and you have no right to then come online and complain about doing your duty. I’m not preaching any miracle but this is a different day and age, change the way you parent to fit it.

I could have literally wrote this post it almost makes me feel a little better knowing there are others out there that are going through the same thing. I really hope you came out of this the other side in a better place I hope you read this so you can let us know

I’m really running out of hope that this will ever get better

My daughter ran away from home and called the cops on me and said that I am a child abuser for expecting her to do her homework and take care of her chores. It has literally ruined my career because of background checks. Sometimes I hate her for it as I get yet another declined job offer :( I feel the rest of the comments for you guys too.

I feel again exactly the same way. I’m sitting here crying (again) as mine has just caused utter upset and distress because she was simply asked to do her homework. She’s irrational, unhygienic, rude, dismissive, arrogant, ungrateful, her room is beyond putrid however much I sort it and is intend on ruining our everyday life. What is wrong with these teenagers?

I hate teenagers - they've got no respect!

I feel the same exact way!!! I even sent my daughter to inpatient psychiatric facility and nothing is working. I feel like I’m in an abusive relationship and my daughter is the abuser. I just want her to leave too! If you find any help for your daughter please share!

I am late to the party but I am going through the same thing and feel terrible that I want my daughter to leave home.
Nearly 4 years have passed since your post - Please let us know how things worked out (or didn’t)

OMG!! I am the step-father of a 16 year old girl and your "confession" is identical to mine! This girl (my stepdaughter) is rude, selfish, entitled, combative, and just all around a little **! Yea, I called her a ** because that is what SHE IS; a **! Mom seems to be emotionally afraid of her and avoids conflict at any cost, but I am not afraid of her 16 year old punk ** and I call her out on all her teenage **/drama which apparently makes ME the bad guy. I just refuse to take ** off a 16 year old punk kid that tries to bully EVERYONE. When this child is at home our ENTIRE home is transformed into a battlefield with teen drama and her NEED for chaos and dysfunction. I would like to look forward to her growing up and leaving home oneday but I am not sure that is EVER going to happen. Her mother (my wife) babies and enables this child's behavior and gives her ZERO reason to grow up. Mom does ALL her homework for her, she cleans her NASTY messy room for her and she even cleans her car for her! Why would this child want to ever grow up?! I could go on and on and on but I will not as ANY OTHER parent of a teen already knows just how much chaos teens bring into the family unit. Personally I think that the BEST method of birth control would be for "prospective parents" to take on a teenager to raise for 1 year before having their own children. I PROMISE YOU that the national birth rate would plummet to almost ZERO immediately. Bottom line is that teenagers now just **!! We have babied, coddled, enabled, and have given them permission to be ** with ZERO consequences. In my day that would have gotten you an ** whipping and an attitude adjustment. Sadly, today we just accept their ** and teach them that they can treat people ANY WAY that they want.

I feel the same exact way about my teenage daughter you're not alone

Please help I hate my daughter- she is the meanest ungrateful **

Ladies and gentlemen what kind of teenager were you? Have we all selective memory?These kids are not monsters they are just inexperienced.They are selfish and self serving but most adults are as well ! Many times I want to kill my child and wish I could wave a magic wand and have peace , however I remember on many occasions putting my wonderful parents through ** .I am now not that person I grew up and have a completely different relationship with them! Go and tell your daughter you disagree with her behavior want better for her don’t appreciate the stress you still love her and that this risky behavior will only make the way she feels about herself even worse .Do not give up on your children you do not have to enable their bad behavior but you need to still love them unconditionally! Set healthy boundaries , take phones , cars, and let them cry rant kick whatever! Walk away a go sit outside in nature regain composure and face it with a different perspective.These brats are our babies they weren’t always fresh faces but this is part of growing up doing dumb ** like everyone does ! Hug them and tell them you get it!

If I tried to hug my daughter she would report me for sexual abuse.

Wow. Inappropriate but I did lol so thanks for that

I was respectful, got good grades, and never did any of what my friends did( didn’t want to hurt my parents). My dad suffered from depression and wasn’t the nicest person to me, still all I wanted was his live and approval.
So no, I wasn’t PERFECT, but I would have never betrayed my parents like my daughter does to me on a daily basis. She’s pure evil and no matter what I give, do, say, she’s hateful, disrespectful, conniving, and has broken my heart forever.

No I never treated my parents like this and I wasn’t innocent

I would never EVER treat my parents the way I am treated. My daughter is a controller who has taken to getting control by self harming, taking overdoses, controlling her eating (had months of her refuses food and is now hugely overeating but if I say she needs to address this ...she says she doesn't want to be fat ....she says "so I'll stop eating again shall I?!". She controls my TV, I have removed her mobile, I get called mean and everything is unfair. She now has umpteen mental health agencies involved and I am a prisoner in my own home. I cannot leave the house as she cannot be trusted. She has been a deceitful liar and I am utterly devastated. I have no idea what has caused this. She hates her older brother and thinks she is treated differently than he was at her age....guess what, yes she is because she is vile and he was never as hideous to me as she is. It sickens me to see the level of hatred she has towards everybody

I feel the same I had to move my wife and her son into an apartment to keep them safe and have cameras all over the house to keep me safe social services do nothing police do nothing and her counseling services say its my fault for not giving her attention her own mother took me to court for custody of her twin sister only as she don't want her I'm so at a loss as to what to do

Im sorry. But no. I was not this teenager. They are officially out of control spoiled **

🤣🤣🙄 says the hippy mother who I’m sure has all the support in the world!

47yo dad. My 15 yo daughter has turned my whole entire life upside down. My kid is a selfish, stubborn, rude, confused spoiled mess. She's ran away several times we had to call the police to find her. She has ** in my house on my couch and I caught her several times. She swallowed a hundred of my prescription pills and they had to pump her stomach and she cuts herself. We had to remove her from school because she can't find a happy medium and complains that the other kids are bullying her because she is white. Now that she manipulated me and my wife into homeschool she's blaming me for mentally and emotionally and physically abusing her. Law enforcement is involved she's not allowed to come home, she's living with her grandmother. CPS and other case workers have been out to the house and of course there is no evidence whatsoever. The judge put her in protective custody and then they sent her to a mental institution for 5 days, all the sudden sense we have to go to court again she's on her best behavior. Her motto is "fake it till you make it". Our lifes for the last 30 days has been a complete stressful train wreck. My wife and I almost separated several times. All for what? So she can rule my household not do her schoolwork, play Xbox all night, have ** with boys and get online naked? What a waste of time!

You are living my life. My daughter has completely ruined mine. She, also, has got child protection involved - a terrifying experience. I attempted suicide because of my extreme anxiety ( she made false allegations of physical abuse which she eventually withdrew and they are now ‘investigating’ claims of emotional abuse) These people hounded me while I was in a psychiatric hospital & even came in. My daughter bullies me relentlessly - her father accepts all her allegations so no support there. I was told I couldn’t return to the family home so I am living alone in an apartment. Look, I am no angel - I’ve completely lost it with her at times but I know I don’t deserve this. My going home depends on her & she doesn’t want me to.I have been trying hard to work on myself but now I feel I don’t really want to go back to all that hate, rage & manipulation. Is this normal? She is just 16 and she has broken me completely and hurt me beyond repair. I have to see these people in 3 days time - they terrify me. I am so, so exhausted by it all. Thanks, M

I am so sorry

M, I am in the same boat. I hate it, hate them, hate what has happened to what was once a great relationship. I had to stop caring. That sounds harsh but I honestly don't care anymore. My kid is failing school, don't care...My kid is vaping, don't care...my kid is drinking, don't care...That is not true. I DO CARE BUT I CANNOT LIVE WITH IT. So instead I remind them that this is their life. These are there choices. These are their consequences. And in some strange way that brings some level of peace.
Stay strong and know that it isn't about you. They are suffering just as much if not more than you. They are ** and **! And I guess that is the way it is supposed to be right now.
Thanks for being so vulnerable and sharing your story.

The xbox, the online, it is ruining our daughters. Mine too. I cannot do anything or be around anyone because she has been running me through this play for 3 years straight. And then they wonder why we don't hang out any more.

I feel you
My daughter is the same
I will pray for them both

Whining about your teenage daughters, whining about people you used to judge for not having kids saying "Yeah, how's THAT workin' out for ya?"... do you "parents" do ANYTHING besides whine whine whine?

It's hilarious how you screech "You have NO idea what we're going through!!"... but if the same person were to *compliment* you on your issue, you'd go all warm and gooey and agree with everything said, no matter how off base it might be. Hypocrites.

Surprise! The DNA replicant you just had to have is not an offshoot of YOU, but an individual.

Surprise! Making babies sets you up for a lot more stress, heartbreak, money issues, etc. etc. etc. than the attention and shower presents make up for.

You set yourself up for 18+ years of commitment with little to no thought of what that's going to consist of, then act all hurt and shocked when things go badly.

You breeders act like no one's ever reproduced before you, and no one could have ever seen the bad stuff coming. Thus proving that it really is mainly stupid people having all the babies.

Wth are you even rambling on about? 😂😂
All of your "quotation's" are just your thoughts.
** 😂😂
You probably skimmed the post.
Almost like people that don't listen when others speak.
You are too busy thinking of what you want to say. Lol

If you aren't a parent why are you even reading about people's parenting issues?
Are you that bored?
If you are that bored maybe you should try to date.
Get laid. Have a baby. Have parenting issues.
I bet your favorite movie is "THE" Christian Bale movie.
Check that.

What you have to do homework and maybe clean up the house, rarely! You kids have no idea what the "real world" is really like, it's definitely not some video game and when life hits you like a ton of bricks don't cry back to us parents. You already burnt that bridge.

Yes we are stupid. Someone was definitely stupid for having YOU. BREEDERS? OH maybe you are not human so you can't make a baby, you are from some other elite species 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

MGTOW troll.

Idiot

Below me

Wow! Just wow! No words.

I’m in The same boat. My 17-year-old daughter is beyond unbelievable. She swears at me belittles me he makes fun of me steals my money says she hates her whole family. Cheats in school, steals things from stores and tells me all she wants to do is get drunk and do drugs. I have taken her to multiple therapists, she had psychiatric testing, Dhe has ADHD & Anxiety- she’s been on multiple multiple multiple psychiatric drugs, she’s had occupational therapy, physical therapy, holistic therapy, any possible thing you could think of. Nothing has ever changed

Mind you we live in a nice house she attends a nice private school but she doesn’t seem to care about anything. She tells me she gets good grades because she cheats in all of her classes. She’s been caught cheating and suspended from school once already. I am so so sick of her.

We have tried grounding her, taking everything away, taking privileges away, limiting access to friends taking computer away anything I can think of. She just doesn’t care. All she wants to do is delight in the misery of others. I am so fed up with her I wish she would just leave. As soon as she’s 18 I am cutting her off. I never want to see her again. She makes everybody in the house miserable and she makes me cry every day. I wish I didn’t feel this way but I am at the end of my rope. I can’t do this anymore.....

She is old enough for you to go to court and emancipate her now.
She wants her freedom? Give it to her.
I can't yet.
But when my 15 yr old is old enough ?
I will will play the Skynard song Freebird in the courtroom.

I will quote Martin Luther King “ Free at last, free at last, thank God I’m free at last”

My almost 15 yo son is ruining my life and systematically destroying my health. I have loved him more than any human being possible. Even through it all I still love him but my soul is being crushed daily. I take him to doctors and therapists but he won't talk. He's also narcissistic and tells me I'M TOO EMOTIONAL. How can you not be emotional when you love someone so much and they are hurting you to your soul. I gave him everything. I gave him my ALL. And I swear to God he's killing me. Slowly. I do not know what to do anymore.....