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I hate my step kids
I have two step kids. A boy 15 and girl 13. I have been with there father for 9 years so I have known there’s kids for quite some time. It’s never been easy with these 2. They only come down 2 times a year the summer and winter break. I have done everything for these 2 kids and they are so disrespectful when they are in my house. This is not a new thing it’s been going on for years. There mom has no rules when they are at her house but when they are with me they have chores and rules.
Hate is a strong word but over the years the disrespect you begin to hate anyone. The ony time the kids talk to me is when they want something. That’s the only time they are nice. I work crazy amount of hours to buy the kids what they want. Will I used to. There dad don’t make a lot and it all goes to child support. So the kids think I control what he will and will not buy them. But truth is he has no money and he asks me if I have any to buy it.
Every time the kids are here I try and try to get close to them but over years I’m begging to give up. I thought it was bad when they where younger but now the boy is posting ** about me on face book when I did not do anything but tell him in a test I will not buy you another cell phone for the 3rd time. I already bout 2 Cell phones for the boy in less then 5 months. Now there mom finally confessed that the kids never want to come down because of me. And they have been saying this for 8 years. I blocked both kids on Facebook and said I’m done with there ** they only time there nice is when I buy them stuff. I’m done buying them stuff and I am no longer going to take there **. I always bit my toung and bought them stuff to keep them happy. I will not be there excuse why the kids don’t want to see there dad.
There dad finally saw what I have been dealing with for years when I refused to buy another cell phone to a kid that won’t take care of his stuff.
Since there is no new phone being bought the boy told his dad he don’t want to come down this summer. The kids do the ** all the time give me this or I will not come down. They are extremely manipulative.
I think I was a bad stepmom buying ungrateful brats what they wanted.
I don’t know how to keep dealing with them. I learned over the years that step family’s are horrible. If they still come this summer I think they are going to be way way worse.
Daddy help me im realy sorry daddy i luv you daddy xxxxxxxxxxxx
My children tried too disrespect there stepdad a few times and i put a stop too it very quickly. I've three children. Two girls and a boy and my husband had a daughter from previous marriage. I will tann my children's bare little buns if they answer their stepdad or myself back and have given him permission to do same. On occasion I've had to spank his young daughter also. I'd never allow my children too disrespect anybody and if they do they know there are consequences...
You work hard for your money and you shouldn’t feel forced to buy the kids things, simply because your married to their dad. marriage is two people. Your husband needs to be aware of his children disrespecting you. There needs to be a stop to the manipulation try talking to your husband about what he thinks yes I understand he will always Jose his Holstein first because in technicality they come first but in real life he should’ve thought about that once he decided to marry you and add another to the family. There needs to be boundaries at 15 they can pick up a part time job. They also need to respect you in your house while they visit. If your husband does nothing for those boys to respect you then he has no **. No self control over any other situation than that child support. If I were you I’d low key have a savings account that your husband or no one but you knows about Incase one day things don’t go as planned and you and your husband divorce separate etc. your husband should look for a double job. There’s jobs out there get him off his ** to provide for his kids. They fully aren’t all your responsibility. Salute to the hard working woman who are the heads of the household respect. God bless