It's odd that after almost 20 years of marriage that my husband now wants to watch me have s** with other men, He has always, As with most men wanted to see me with a woman and before we married I agreed to it, We did it with my best friend and it was a mistake, It almost destroyed my friendship because it became a situation where they both wanted more and I had made it very apparent that it was a one time thing that would never happen after we were married and yes I know for a fact they never went behind my back, I know there was no infidelity but I started actually avoiding partying with her because they would both work on me when I was drunk and she even took it so far as to walk in on us while we would be having s** hoping I would invite her to join, Over time she met a guy and that kind of all went away, He is not really into anything like that but thank goodness he...Redirected her attention.
More recently (The last 6 months or so) my husband has started a new...Obsession, We made a trip to Cuba, just the two of us and between starting way too early with the rum (I think someone may have added something), 30 degree temperatures and me already feeling frisky and provocative since it was my first experience wearing a thong in front of other people. We met a couple people by the pool, Started drinking with them and one of the two guys spent more time with us than the other one, Eventually my husband, Unknown to me had invited him to come with us, I was pretty drunk already and I thought we were going to the room to get ready for supper not really paying attention to the fact the other guy was coming with us the whole time until we walked into our room and he followed.
I looked at him, He looked at me, I looked at my husband and he looked at me, Before I knew what was going on I was in a hot make out session with this 20-25 year old guy and when I should have stopped...I didn't, I had s** with him, I had s** with him a lot, My husband watched, He joined in and he loved every minute of it, I basically had my world rocked and passed out after, I couldn't even stay awake I was so tired after, I had made sure my husband showed him out and I cleaned up but then crawled into bed at like 7:00pm and slept till morning, The next few days were awkward and weird with my husband constantly trying to talk me into it again and me refusing.
Since then my husband has been fascinated with the idea of me banging other guys, It's all he talks about when we have s**, It's the main thing that gets him off. All I have to do if I am ready to be done is get on my stomach, Stick my butt in the air and say dirty things about me banging some random dude and he is done within seconds.
I don't want to do it again, I am ok with the fact that I did, I am not having any...Internal conflict or anything like that but it was not my thing, I don't think about it, I don't have a need for more than what my husband gives me, I am ok with the dirty talk and role playing but really don't want to do it again and could live my entire life never being with anyone other than him.
Why does he Need/Want more.