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Wife is a feedee and I'm her feeder
I have always preferred my ladies big, but always kept it a secret. I got married to my wife who was not fat, but always desired to to be a bit bigger & was happy both times after having our kids she'd gained weight, probably around the 200lb mark, but both times she'd loose the weight, even though she loved to eat.
Then one day while shopping I saw a lady that must have 400lbs plus & I kept looking at her, when my wife said, "Do you like big women, I've noticed over the years, you looking at big ladies when we are out?". I confessed that I did infact find them attractive. That night she told me that she always struggled to watch her weight, because she loves food and would love nothing more than to not worry about it anymore, which I told her I'd always love her no matter how fat she was. She started gaining weight & within a few years she was 300lbs, I loved it.
It was our anniversary and we'd both had a bit to drink & while making love & me playing with her fat she said "I love being fat, I want to get fatter". It turned me on & the ** got wilder when she said, "I'd love you to fatten me, I want to get really fat". That turned me even more. We had a chat afterwards & she told me how she loved the extra weight she was carrying, she loved the look of all the fat & how she just kept thinking & had even had dreams of being really fat.
So I spoiled her, I'd take her to dinner, bring home treats, loved her as usual & she kept gaining weight. She hit 400, the 500lbs & was just eating more & more. She'd tease me, by wearing stretch pants only & waddle past me, her belly swaying slowly from side to side with each step, her huge rear rolling with each step & say "I'm so fat & **". She kept encouraging me to spoil her, to keep feeding her & I could resist her desires.
She's now 660lbs & gaining, she doesn't want to stop, she wants to get even fatter, she can barely get around now, she just a huge fattened goddess. Do I keep fattening her?
Thank you for taking the time to answer me so courteously. I'm touched that you shared my question with Cindy too!
It's wonderful to hear that your bond is so strong. Some people might only see the negatives in your situation, the things lost. But you have both clearly gained so much that is new and positive. More ways to show & feel your love for one another, as you say. Hence why you like to take your time when you are washing her, rather than get it out of the way fast as if it was simply a chore.
It does seem natural to me that you changing her diaper for her becomes part of that bond, simply because the intimacy of it is by necessity so extreme & something that simply isn't ever required for most couples, who will never know what you & Cindy know. The hardest of hard proof that you love and accept every part of her. And of course with cheeks her size it's going to take a while to clean her properly anyway, so why not take your time & make it feel good for her?
It would be so easy for an immobile partner to feel anxiety and shame around diapering, but the fact that she'll just call to you without hesitation or worry whenever she needs a change speaks volumes for how much she trusts you :) Did the emotional side of it surprise either of you when you first started, back in December?
And yes I imagine at your wife's size her diapers are pretty enormous lol. It's good that they do bariatric diapers big enough for her - and hopefully a larger size should she ever grow out of these? Even if you can't measure her weight anymore, I doubt she's stopped growing when you seem to take such good care of her :)
Thanks very much for your insightful comments. Yes, interesting, before Cindy became immobile, it hadn’t really occurred to us there could be a satisfying emotional component to basic physical consequences of immobility, bathing and diapering. It’s just kind of unfolded over time as we settled into the new normal and the emotional aspects dawned on us. Well, it’s done with tenderness on my part and gratitude from her, but even more, as you mention, the trust which can let her feel content.
So, just a couple of things I wanted to mention about her size and immobility and how life still is satisfying for her. She does spend a lot of time eating, that’s a requirement. I mentioned in a previous post she mostly eats pancakes and syrup that I make. She asked me again recently if I could funnel-feed her with pancake batter, which I did and which she and I both enjoyed. She’ll take vitamins for other nutritional needs.
Despite her size, Cindy cares to be well-dressed and well-groomed. Because Cindy is too big to buy anything that would fit, from a company, we found a seamstress who makes all of Cindy’s things. We look on line for things we like, like lingerie, and the seamstress will come take measurements (that’s fun, to see the growth) and make really nice pieces for her. (And bigger diapers when that time comes.). Mostly she’s in nighties now and the diapers. A lady comes in weekly to give her a mani/pedi, and another to do her hair. She puts on make up every day and just always looks great. Nieces and nephews like to come and play in the room and ask why she’s so fat. She just laughs and says I ate too much and look what happened. She has friends who come and visit - it’s a book club and I’m not allowed in. She takes Zoom classes. There is a dr friend we have who makes house calls. Not a real sensual post but just life with an immobile wife.
Couldn't agree more. Just because our ladies are hugely fat women, doesn't mean they are slobs. As I said in an above reply, my wife is now deliberately gaining more weight. But she keeps clean, with my help, most days does her makeup & dresses in nice clothes that we have made. She doesn't pig down her food, she savours every mouthful. I keep the house very clean & tend to her every need. She is still able to exercise in our pool (have a lift to get her in & out), but there is going to be a point where she is going to end up immobile. She has told me she actually wants that & the thought of being that fat & to keep gaining turns her on, even though she knows the risks.
Thank you for the insight, I loved it :) It's interesting to see how much of 'normal life' can be brought to her now she can't go to it, enabling her to still do many things and vary her days. I like that she still cares about her hair and nails and remains very much a classic girl in this. Who said needing diapers had to mean the end of careful grooming and fashion-conciousness?!
Having her own time with friends in the book club is a great idea for preserving good mental health too. It's great that her/your siblings are happy for their kids to visit & that the children are open & not close-minded about how massive she is. Hope they climb up and give Auntie Cindy a proper hug rather than just hanging around in the room all the time! Again, keeping this part of 'normal' life in her day-to-day experience.
Glad you have a doctor call in on her every so often. As a friend what have you said about your lifestyle together to them? I would hope enough that they don't try and persaude her to change her ways all the time, as a typical doctor would. And a seamstress to make pretty things for her is a great idea! Does your seamstress make Cindy's current diapers then - are you not using disposables? Or do you just use custom-made cloth panels to keep an absorbant pad in place - so that part is disposable but the rest you keep & wash? A little confused lol!
Truly her life with you does sound very contented - bravo! :)
Hello, sorry it took a little while to respond. Yes, the kids don’t just play on the floor, they get lots of hugs and affection for their auntie Cindy. Well, she’s so big, they can almost play hide and seek around her. They’ve just known her as she is, they’re not self-conscious. Sometimes if she’s eating, they’ll just lean up against her and have peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, then go on about their playing. We love having them over. Well, my doctor friend knows what the deal is, and he doesn’t nag about our or her life choices. If she doesn’t feel well, he’ll come over and diagnose and prescribe. I can tell sometimes he wants to do his dr. obligation and say something about weight or diet or exercise, but he just keeps it in.
We use the 5XL bariatric diapers with tabs. What we’ve asked the seamstress to do is to jerry rig the tabs with strips of Velcro so the tabs can be lengthened depending on her weight gain. We do use absorbent pads on the bed under her in case of leakage, but the diapers so far are working ok. For us, it’s still a work in progress, the combination of immobility, diapering and weight gain. But, you know, we stay cheerful about things. Our life, overall, is rewarding for all the reasons mentioned previously.
Awesome. I wish you many more happy years together :)
I'm curious- you write that you're not feeder/feedee, but I take it that really fat women do it for you sexually, particularly the way you describe her in her nightgown.
But I can't really understand how you both can NOT be into that, her size being what it is and that she not only eats pancakes all day, but straight downs batter and asks you to funnel it into her!
You're not a feeder, but an enabler? she is/isn't a feedee? can you elaborate- I seriously don't get it.
Good question, sorry it took a while to reply. I suppose if the both of us find my wife’s weight gain to be mutually **, and the food is a means to that end, and I prepare her food, and bring it to her, or feed her batter with a funnel, I guess I could be called a feeder. It’s not just because of ** that she eats; she is always hungry. There is no dom/submissive aspect, no force-feeding or stuffing aspect, no ** eating aspect, no measuring, no weigh-ins. Until she became largely bed-bound and now immobile, she did most of the cooking. So there are some things that can fall under the umbrella of feederism that didn’t seem to apply. We would often use the terms gainer and encourager or enabler. But, with her immobility, maybe the term feeder/feeder now fits.
It is a good question & I'd have to agree, my wife's weight was ** to me & since she was 627lbs has become ** to her as well. Her love, passion for eating good food & my enabling that is the reason why she just got fatter & fatter. There wasn't any of the stereotypical feeder/feeder attributes, like weighing, measuring, feeding her, I just provided her with as much food as she wanted. But, I guess there could be a bit of that now with us both finding it ** that she now weighs probably over 750lbs. I've read her your experiences with Cindy & the guys who's wife is 800lbs & she said it turned her on, women getting as fat as her & even fatter. I wondered if your wives also thought that? As I've said, she wants to gain more weight, she enjoys what it does to me & now her. So now, the question is how fat are our wives going to get? My wife is 50, says, she's loved her life, bringing up our kids, seeing them make their own, independent lives & she wants to enjoy the last phase of life how she wants. Which part of that is to eat & eat & eat & for me to enable that which I simple can't stop doing. She is just so hot to me, her dressmaker came only a few days ago & I heard her waist is just under 3m, she's so fat & round, it turns me on so much just writing this & seeing her sitting there right this minute eating. I want her so fat! She was looking only yesterday at huge women & spotted Carol Yeager, said "want me that fat?", as she grabbed my **, felt I was hard & she said "oh yesss, you do". I just know, I can't stop fattening her by enabling her, she's just going to gain more weight, become immobile & just gain more & more weight & I'll keep enabling her the bigger she gets. It worries me but like the guy wants his wife to be 1000lbs, deep down I'd like mine even bigger.