I have a love/hate relationship with my family

My family used to be horrible people. Drug and alcohol-abusing, physically abusing, mentally abusing, system-abusing, low-lifes. My home was a battlefield for 15+ years, now they're actually semi-normal. I'm not sure what changed them but I'm thankful they have. They have actually grew to be pretty normal/decent people in the last 5-6 years. I've grown close with them ever since they got better and I do love them, I just have a hard time letting go of the past. I hate what they put me through and what they were. They made my childhood h*** and I still battle with a lot of that trauma.

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  • Sorry this happened to you. You seem like a caring person so if I may offer some advice: Take care of yourself. It's great they're on the mend. You can forgive, but that doesn't mean you have to completely let them back in. Keep them at arms length if you wish. There's nothing wrong with looking after yourself. They put you through h*** for 15 + years, it's not something that you can just get over. Like you mentioned, you still battle with the trauma. It's time someone took care of you!! So yes, love them/hate them. There are no rules to this. Do what works for you. No apologies. All the best!

  • I got a idea , hire the mob or the Italian mafia or the Mexican mafia to slay your entire family , believe me you will have no regrets about it . Afterwards go on the run to South America and start a new life .

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