He's going to be mine

Obviously you inspired a lot of comments. In gaining a perspective from all this you need to hang on with confidence and build your self-esteem by thinking about all the goodness within you. Many men are looking for the right woman, which includes the learning you have gained about human nature after this experience. You also appear to have much to give emotionally and sexually, which enhances a relationship greatly. Don't let poor judgement in the past define you. You've gained a great education here. I wish you success!

Forgive me. While you seem resigned to having lost your man, that may be a mistake. You and Molly's husband were together -- I used that word intentionally -- for a very long time. You actually were together longer than he was together with Molly, and it was almost surely longer than he was with "the other woman". I think you should go see him, have a looooong conversation with him about what happened (you really don't know for certain), and see if there is any possibility that your relationship can be restored (my 2 cents: I think it can, and I'm certain that conversation will conclude with love-making). You were so looking forward to seeing him and being with him that weekend: that tells me things were serious. Please don't abandon ship just because the ocean got a little choppy. He might very well appreciate your effort and decide he needs to be with you. Together. Again. Forever. Now THAT would be romantic!

The ocean "got a little choppy" because there were too many boats in it. How stupid are you?

Wasnt writing to you. wasnt offering you support. wasnt concerned with what you think. all those things are still true. bye felicia.

Don't care. still going to respond whether you like it or not. Fight me :)

HEY EVERYBODY, OP GOT BACK ON HER MEDS AND IS CLAIMING TO BE SANE AGAIN

I may regret sharing this fact, but I think those who have criticized me may deserve to know. Earlier today I got a call from my girlfriend from school whose husband I said I was targeting. She called to tell me not to come next weekend (I'd postponed the trip last weekend because I had to take one of my children to the ER). She told me that she discovered her husband has been cheating on her "for several years" and he's been doing it with "a close friend of mine". I froze because I was certain she was talking about me and knew it was me who'd been ** him. She said she was going to divorce him immediately, "unless I kill both of them first". Then she said she even suspected that at least one of the other woman's kids was fathered by him, and that she was pregnant now, probably also with his baby. At that point I knew -- to my permanent relief -- that it wasn't me. But I also knew -- to my permanent anger and hatred and shame -- that while he'd been cheating on her with me, he had also been cheating on me with this other woman, and knocking her up, maybe several times, maybe planned. My critics here will probably think I deserve this, and you may all be right, but it still hurts as if I were losing him as a husband, when as you've all pointed out, I never actually had him. I called him after I hung up with her, and told him that Molly called and if he ever breathes a word of our relationship to her or anyone else, I'll make sure he doesn't live long enough to regret it. He said "you're the least of the problems I have right now", and he hung up. That dismissal of me and my place in his life are probably proper in the circumstances. Famous last words. -- OP

You don't deserve to be treated like this and you deserve better, you clearly have a beautiful soul and need romance,
Tell me more about your self **

That is so incredibly kind, and I will come back and write you again later. But today is devoted to acknowledging everyone here who was critical and to confessing that they were right about me and that I was a cheating **-crazed **. More for you in a day or two, when things have calmed a little. Thank you for being so understanding, and for seeing my feelings as romantic in nature. You're right about that and I'll explain better. I appreciate you.

I look forward to talking with you, your one of the genuine people who speaks there mind and shown great character in answering all the doubters, hope to speak soon x

LOL LOL LOL!!

Yep, for once you're actually right about something. So much for your certainty that he was YOURS and "only" YOURS.

Reality's almost as much of a b.itch as you are. Put on your big girl ** and learn your lesson, unless you need yet more attention and drama. In which case, learn anyway despite your disability.

Yes, I know. I sounded so arrogant and so sure, partly because he and I had been ** for so long. I almost write "together" for so long. But I can see now that we were never together. At least not in any meaningful sense. Yes, again, I realize that I am a woman who needs a LOT of attention, and I admit that I have a slight addiction to "drama".......I actually love it........as long as it all favors me. That's where I thought this "drama" was headed, in MY favor, but obviously.......I was wrong.

You should have known. If he was that much of a hound when he was between your legs, there was never a reason to think he wasn't a hound when he wasn't between your legs. C'est la vie, bambine.

You're right. I admit it. You're right. I should have seen it. In hindsight, the signs were all there. A girlfriend of mine here said that the wife deprived me of the sick pleasure of ending her marriage. That's a hard truth but I fear it may be true. And yes, that's life.

I thought that, too: you were going to "confess" to her -- or you and her husband were going to do that together -- and blow up their marriage, so your worry about her having found out on her own (assuming she thought you were the homewrecker when she started explaining things to you) was more a matter of having been beaten to the punch. Still, I understand how and why you would have wanted to deliver the news yourself and see her heart break into a million pieces; that is certainly an understandable part of the excitement in these extramarital arrangements that immediately lead to new marriage.

To be candid, I think you're being blind about this situation, and you should reconsider before you do anything.

That's what I should have done and wish I had done but did not do. Yes. Mea culpa.

I've been where you are right now and so I know how thrilling it is and how beautiful it is: the romance of it is unlike any other relationship and it can bring incredible pleasure and joy. We both know it's not an easy goal to reach, but I managed to get my man away from another woman and their children, and I feel really good about your approach and your attitude, and I just wanted wish you good luck. Please keep us posted on how things go.

Thank you for understanding. Like the other positive commenter above, I will write to you again.

I appreciate your thoughtfulness, and for sharing a bit of your own personal history, so very close to home. I'm happy that your situation seems to be working out, but would like to know more about you and your affair and your new marriage. CONGRATULATIONS! Please tell me more?

I think, like most side whores, you are heading for a rude awakening.

Nuh-uhhh im speshul an i get wut i want hes mine forever and ever and ever he'll never mess around on me cuz im me tee hee im just another arrogant c.un.t who thinks her stretched out slit is a magickul portal an that makes purfict sense cuz that's where i keep my brains tee hee im a very very speshul bimbo :)

No dope smoking when posting

Tell OP that, not the person with at least half a brain who's mocking her.

From a guys perspective on leaving your wife to be with a "love of your life" mistress...
Don't expect him to be yours till he leaves his wife!
I was that guy & know kids especially are hard to leave or blend into a new relationship but when mom is hurt behind the situation like your it's going to take its toll.
My son waited till he was in his 20's & decided to hate me for telling his mom she wasn't good as the other woman who treated him better than biomom.
Your kid getting sick was karma saying don't mess with fate.

Your karma comment REALLY hit home. Had I been there the weekend my daughter got sick, I would made it worse for her by being absent. AND I WOULD HAVE MADE A TOTAL ** OF MYSELF. Hopefully, now, no one ever finds out what an idiot I am.

Too late. We know. Because you thought you were all that and just had to brag like you were still in 8th grade.

I had a sick child last weekend and so I postponed my trip. Two weeks from now he'll be mine.

When you are the other woman he think about you all day. He buys you presents and meets you for licit **.

When you are his wife, you are cooking and cleaning and lying quietly on your back while he ** you and thinks about the woman we wants to be with.

I don't worry about him thinking of anyone else: it's not going to happen. He will never cheat on me and he will never leave me. I'm not going to give him the chance. I know how to take care of a man, and he knows that I know. He'll be with me forever.

My gf was totally devoted to me until about a year after my wife and I separated. Then she grew distant. We separated just a couple of weeks ago. At one stage she said seeing me was sometimes a chore. Who the ** wants to be a chore. Now wife knew nothing of gf and wife was distant for over 10 years but I wonder if gf enthusiasm was kept alive by presence of wife. maybe you will go cold too if you get him.

So.....much.....truth. I really TOTALLY get your observation about the enthusiasm being maintained by the thrill of the infidelity. Now, this other woman (don't know her) will get to find out how right you are. Thanks for stating the warning in such an objective way. That is a very hard thing to do, but you managed to keep the emotion out of it and just provide the history. Best wishes to you in your relationships.

Ha ha ha ha ha look what you wrote further up ha ha

Yes. You needn't remind me. I think of my unfounded arrogance every minute of every day. I was stupid. I was a POS. And I still am.

You are bipolar. It figures you have at least one kid, I swear only mentally incompetent people breed anymore!

There is nothing -- NOTHING -- appealing or appropriate or right about being a homewrecker. Please stop.

I am so totally NOT a homewrecker. I'm just taking what already belongs to me.

You are not a homewrecker, you are just a thot.

Side wh0re, thot, whatever

Quite the lowlife aren't you

I've done some things I'm not proud of. Everybody has. But I'm no lowlife. Are you???!?

What is it with you sub-intelligent little girls that you think an "I'm rubber and you're glue" comeback has anything to it? Multiple question marks make you look even dumber and less stable... and the bar was pretty low to begin with.

Now come on, hit me with a sick burn like "ur just jealous :)" or make yet another brainless arrogant statement about how you're going to "keep" a man you had to poach. And keep thinking YOU'RE the one playing HIM, you stupid tw@t.

Get a life. Your plan **, and you know it. There are plenty of other ways to find purpose and fulfillment in this life than this ** you’re caught up in, trust me. Dead end street

This is pure romance and love and heat. And it's not **: it's real. You are the one with the sad sad life.

Haha i changed my mind well actually my mind changed me, you see my brain chemicals don't work very well and now i'm very sad and contrite, hmu in another couple of weeks and i'll be a dumb roaring b.it.ch all over again like this never happened oh god oh god i'm covered in invisible snakes again *blows bubbles*

Don't believe that taking away your gf's husband will ever make you happy. May be to him, you will be more or less a ** in view of your acquaintance and past ** episodes. Best option should be to develop a 3-some arrangement with him and his wife. As a man of sexual esperience this is my suggestion.

I've had my share of threeways but I wouldn't do that with this woman in the bed. Ewww! Plus, I just want him for myself and on my own. And I'm going to have him that way. :)

Probably more fiction, but if if true and if you're that much of **, no man worth having would want you for anything more than an occasional ** toy. I've had a hundred like you, but I wouldn't leave the mother of my children for anyone. Even though I don't particularly care for the wife, I love my children.

Besides, you have kids. The man isn't going to want to feed another man's children. If it does work out for you, you'll still have to pay the karmic price, and that's going to be heavy.

Good luck.

When I first read this, I laughed. I actually laughed "out loud" about him thinking of me as you did any one or more (or all?) of your affair or fling partners (your level of experience in that regard, I have to say, is amazing and even exciting). Needless to say, darling, I am not laughing now. You hit that particular nail right on its ** head. **......you understand women. That's why so many are so drawn to you. Incredible.