I’m having a really hard time at home with my wife. I love her and care for her deeply. I constantly flirt and tease and hint and touch and show her emotional support. I’m a giving and kind person with a diverse personality. She NEVER initiates any kind of physical encounter. It makes me feel unwanted and unseen. I mentioned this to her and she got upset with me, and emotional, and I once again needed to support her. I tried bringing it up again and she makes it about s**, which it is, but it’s not. It’s about feeling validated as a man, as a provider, as a caretaker and as a lover.
Meanwhile my body is screaming to be touched. My heart is aching to see desire for me reflected in someone’s eyes.