I hate being a stepdad and for the wrong reasons

Mid-age male here who met the love of his life. She has a daughter from when she was in high school who is a blast. The dad is in her life but completely distant. No communication whatsoever just occasional message from the daughter of events. The problem is the fact that I cannot get over the idea that she had s** with this guy and, decided to have his child. I feel like no matter where I go or, what I do, thats his girl. Its like she was a s*** of the school and im the sucker for having to be with her, sloppy seconds and, take care of her kid.

I know its completely unreasonable but, i dont know what to do or how to even feel about it. That feeling is always around and in my head. Can anyone help? I really love this girl & my family does too.


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  • You are not unreasonable at all. You'd have to be mentally ill to like raising another man's kid. The problem is you settled for her

  • See a therapist

  • I think by the fact you went in to detail about the daughter is your real answer! You have feelings for her!?

  • Yeh get a life moron. She was young and dumb when she had s ex with the father. Used no protection and got pregnant. If you can't get past that you need help. You have to take the whole package. If you can't handle that then leave her and be alone idiot.

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