I've fallen for the guy I'm seeing. Problem is, I'm getting tired of feeling like the relationship is being yo-yoed.
I talk with him about the yo-yo issue, and it always comes down to me asking if we should simply be friends, or for him to simply tell me the issue so we can move on. He convinces me nothing is wrong, and he doesn't find anything to be going wrong. He suddenly cares, is there, and will stay with me until I'm convinced that we can make it work. He's then close and caring for a few days, before the excuses start.
The excuses start off with why he can't see me in person. Then they're why he can't even watch a movie, or play a game with me online once a week. Ok? I think fine then, everyone gets busy; I know I do. I keep hoping that he will be able to see me maybe in a couple weeks tops, but it never happens. Then he has excuses why he can't call me. I listen and give the benefit of the doubt, I don't like people listening in on my conversations either; which is his excuse, not mine. He's living with family right now, so I know it's difficult for him. Then there are excuses why he can't just text me over the phone. I still try to give the benefit of the doubt and just think fine, phones can suck at times.
At the present, it's to the point where we're conversing solely through leaving messages for each other to read later, on a messenger; and this has been going on for weeks. Every time I spot him online, which I can only tell when he messages me because he stays under invisible now, if I respond to him within a few hours, he doesn't say anything for the rest of the day. To add to that, when he does message, he will only message something short every other day; and there is always a reason for it.
I get that life can become crazy, especially with everything happening now, but this type of thing has been happening in a cycle for nearly a year now. The cycle is me finally becoming upset with him distancing himself, confronting him about it, him convincing me all is ok, he stays close for a few days, then cuts off from me bit by bit. I don't expect him to stay 24/7 with me. We all have lives to live. However, it'd be nice to not feel like it's rare for us to connect even once a month.
Is there something that I'm missing here? Is this normal?