Anyone else enabled a partner to get fat?
I married a big girl. After 5 years of marriage she became very ill and it took months of various treatments cure her. In this time she lost a lot of weight & looked terrible. So after almost loosing her & being supportive through her treatment I would do anything to help her. She had said she needed to put some weight back, she didn't like her saggy skin.
So I was doing shopping for her, cooking etc... as she got her strength back. She was putting on some weight, she was getting her strength back, but i was still doing a lot for her, I enjoyed it, she appreciated & even more in love with than ever.
I was buying snacks, stocking the pantry with anything she desired, we were now sharing the cooking. Anytime I went to the kitchen I'd ask if she wanted anything & get it. She gained more weight getting back to her original size. I kept getting whatever she wanted, she started eating more, putting on more weight. I didn't mind, I liked her big.
Well, she got bigger & bigger, I was so used to enabling her eating & she just lapped it up, only a couple of times, mentioning how big she was getting, but by the next day, she'd be back to eating & I couldn't say anything, I didn't want upset her & to be honest I liked the bigger her.
Now, she's even bigger, her last check up with her specialist she got the all clear again, but she weighs 243kg (over 500lbs). So as I've seen on shows like 600lb life, I have enabled her to become this fat & yet I am struggling to stop enabling her & she has told me she happy & doesn't care how big she gets.
Anyone been in this situation?