At my Kingsbridge-Bronx RC church I recently discovered that our soon to be Deacon “George” has a very checkered past. He was arrested years ago for having oral s** with another man right next to the children’s playground at Van Cortlandt Park when a mother saw him and called the police. The playground was directly across the street from our old church. He has been cruising the neighborhood parks for over 30 years. Ok it’s his own personal business. Then I find out he had an affair with a now defrocked priest “Ralph”. OK still his own business. Then I find out that he had been disowned by some of his family for inappropriate behavior with his niece and nephews. This is where it becomes problematic. “George” trains the young alter servers and runs the youth group at the church. He also has a very close relationship with the pastor who is also strange. They spend an awful lot of time alone together. “George’s” much older wife seems oblivious to all of this.
My dilemma is that I know I should report this to the NY Archdiocese and St Joseph’s Seminary but fear that it will all be swept under the rug, and I will he berated for doing the right thing. I know that if I do nothing this will become a bigger problem and as a Deacon he will only become more daring in his exploits. So upset over all of this!