Anyone have stories of family members fattening up?

My mom has been purposefully gorging herself for a few weeks now. Trying to impress this new guy, I guess. He keeps persuading her to eat more and more and encourages her to gain weight. He says that he loves big women with an appetite and is always buying her bigger clothes!

My mom is always eating now it seems. She was hesitant at first, but now with her now boyfriend footing the bill for everything and encouraging her to get bigger, I'm worried about her health! She started out a bit chubby; 200lbs, but the rate she's been binging, I'm afraid that she'll be over 300lbs by next year!! She won't listen to reason and is too enamored with this guy!

I'm at my wits end here. I'm hoping for people to share their own experiences with family members (dad, mom, cousins, aunt, uncles, siblings, etc) getting fat and gaining large amounts of weight. What happened in your situations? How did it happen, how much weight did they gain? How did you deal with it!?

Nov 14

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  • I've been on the other side of the situation. I purposely gained over 100 pounds. I went from chubby to morbidly obese and it has been wonderful except for dealing with my family. It isn't easy dealing with the insecurities that come from getting fat. You feel your body changing, getting heavier and more and more out of shape. You see it change, getting bigger, developing rolls, cellulite, your belly starts hanging. It's a lot to come to grips with even if it is what you want. It's not accepted and you know people are judging you. I sweat more, I get out of breath, I waddle now, and I have moobs. Being this fat is embarrassing. Having family give me a hard time just makes it so much worse. I know they are just worried about my health and, honestly, I am too. I know what I'm doing is not healthy but it is what I want. If your mom is like me, she's not going to stop. You will have to get used to her being fat and getting fatter. It is her choice. Don't ruin your relationship with her over this.

  • OP here. Thanks for giving me your perspective from the other side of the coin, so to speak.

    Hope you don't mind me asking, but how much do you weigh currently?

    Are you still planning on gaining weight?

    What sort of aspects of it do you enjoy?

    Did you gain all on your own, or did you have (I think they're called?) a feeder?

    It's tough seeing this situation, and I do understand worrying about your health. That's my biggest concern with my mom.

  • I don't mind at all. I currently weigh 325 and I do plan on gaining a lot more.

    I love the look and feel of being fat. I love being big and soft and flabby. I love how heavy my body feels to move, even though it makes any physical activity more difficult. I love that I jiggle when I move. I like feeling out of shape. I love seeing and feeling the changes in my body as the pounds pile on. It really is very addicting. I don't know that I will ever be satisfied.

    That is something you need to understand if your mom is really into this. It is not easy to stop. Like I said, I know this isn't good for me, but yet I still shovel thousands of calories into my face every day, hungry or not, because I need to see the number on my scale go up.

    I don't have a feeder exactly, but I do have a supportive partner. They don't push me to eat, but they like me fat and getting fatter.

    How is your mom doing? Is she still gaining? Do you know what she weighs now? Have you spoken to her about this?

  • Okay, thank you again for answering my questions. I think I understand a little better now.

    Yes, I have talked with her about this, and she said similar things; she enjoys her body changing, and how big, soft and heavy she is getting. She said that she loves eating whatever she wants and the feeling of an overfull belly especially.

    She seems to be doing well despite all the weight gain, just gets tired or out of breath more frequently. Yes, she's still gaining and told me she wasn't going to stop any time soon. Shortly after the 4th of July, she weighed in at 343lbs.

  • It sounds like she's doing great with her gaining. I hope she is happy and I hope you are able to accept it and be happy for her or at least that it stops giving you stress. Good luck to both of you! Keep us updated.

  • I would not worry about it she might of been into this all along and just hid it if she’s happy let her be I have been though stuff like this before interfering will just strain your relationship

  • What was your experience?

  • Tbh it’s none of your business. If they’re happy let them be Feedism is normal

  • How is it normal if you end up turning someone into a blob!? I'm just really worried about my mom

  • I totally get you. It feels weird when you see a family member get really fat and it basically happens in front of your eyes.
    Up until a few years ago my Dad was an avid runner and would play different sports with his pals too, like squash and such. But he was also into these sort of extreme sports. He would do all sorts of crazy things like skydiving and bungee-jumping. Not excessively, but there were definitly a couple times a year. But he was just generally into health too. It was kind of a family thing.
    One time though he had a pretty nasty fall when he was out rock climbing. He was very lucky to not die then, and he still had to spend quite a while in hospital. But that experience really changed him and when he was allowed to leave he was a different person. I was already getting a strange vibe when he wanted to stop at a fast food place to celebrate already on the way home. He ordered a ton and then gorged himself to the point where you could clearly see the bloat he had going. He didn't even try to conceal the burp after he finished.
    At that point of course we were all just very happy to have him back, and I thought that maybe the hopsital food was just that bad. But that first meal really stuck with me, cuz that was my introduction to my new Dad.
    Basically he had this change in mentality that he wanted to take things easy and comfortable, spend more time at home, enjoy his food. And boy, that he did. What all this meant is that he became a lazy slob, who kept stuffing himself. It was very sad to watch my fit and full of energy Dad turn into an obese and unhealthy man, who has to struggle a bit to get off the couch and then breathes heavily from the exertion. In the span of 3 years he doubled his weight and is now around 350 pounds.

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