Wife’s ex-gf

Amie and Kat were roommates in college and remained friends.
Amie invites Kat stays with us in the summer because we live 30 minutes from the beach and Kat lives in CT.
When Kat visits she complains about everything, our house, food we cook, the guest bed and our neighborhood. She picks fights with the our neighbors and it takes us months to reestablish piece after her ass is gone! I’ve always been shocked the two are friends because Amie’s the opposite. She was raised by strict religious parents, quiet, can’t say no to anyone, a secretary for a lawyer, takes time doing her hair and makeup before she goes anywhere. She loves fashion and has two closets full of dresses and shoes. She even wears dresses around the house and visits the spa once a week. Her job requires her to look professional. To stay in shape, she does yoga, we’re both vegan and road bike 30 to 50 miles on the weekends.
You’d never know by looking at her disgusting ass but Kat says she’s F**ng allergic to everything OMG her F&*king food allergies. She’s morbidly obese, shaved head, sleeve tats, face piercings, over 250lb, huge ankles and toe nails are yellow with fungus! I knew Kat was bi but this time she informed us she 100% lesbian.
This year Kat got on my last nerve. I told her to leave and never come back. She got violent and started throwing things. I thought we were going to have to call the police. During her rage, she said she’s not keeping it secret any more and said her and Amie dated and had s** all the time. I brushed it off as BS, told Kat I don’t believe anything she’s f**ing saying and to get the h*** out of our lives and don’t come back. She packed her s**t and got an Uber. I was glad she was gone.
That night, Amie and I finished having s** and told me she wanted to explain what Kat said.
Ok. I’m not naive, I knew in college Amie made out her sorority sisters but as far as I knew that’s as far as it went. I’d like to add, her sorority sister are HOT and I wished I was there when it went down.
I wasn’t prepared for the bombshell. She apologized I had to find out this way but she used to be a LUG (lesbian until graduation) but now a hasbian. Her and Kat dated and slept together while roommates.

She said, ‘ask me anything’.
How many guys have you really been with? Originally I was told 3 but it’s actually 14. Three of the guys were bi.
How many girls beyond ‘making out’? 6 All of them were Kat’s friends. No sorority sisters.
Have you and Kat had s** after we got married? Yes
Amie admitted while in college she liked making out with ‘lipstick Lesbians’ but preferred s** with a ‘b****’.
btw: I had to google this stuff.
Are you still attracted to Kat? Yes! To make matters worse, she asked if I’d be ok if she still hooked up with Kat but not at our house because she might actually be a bi-sexual and wanted me to respect that. If I’m ok, she’d like to spend a few weekends per year with Kat. She assured me things will be fine and promised to reward me and make ‘it’ll be worth it’. She’s giving me plenty of time to think about it. Also, she begged me to keep this from her parents. It would be bad if they found out.
I’m in shock and confused at what to do. Amie said she doesn’t want a divorce. She’s not into anyone else, just Kat. She just wants me to respect her, her body and what she wants which is occasional time with Kat.
I'm considering because Amie and I have a great marriage and she promised I wouldn't have to get around Kat again.
To pre-answer comments. NO! I don’t want a three way with Kat! I find her repulsive!

Jan 21

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  • Your wife was not straight forward with you. there is no return for her. now it falls on you-do you like this life style? if you don't know or you answer no: get a divorce.

  • If you say no she will do it anyway and you will always be in the dark. Your wife will know she can cheat on you with anybody, and she will
    If you say yes she will be doing her girlfriend and you will know all about it, get her to tell all and get some enjoyment yourself. If you are smart you should secretly tape them in action.
    Be careful , this could bite you in the ass and she might find some guy who she decides to add to her girlfriend. Your job is to stay 2 steps ahead of her, good luck.

  • Tell her to find a more attractive lover so you can share

  • This depends on what you can tolerate. What kind of wedding vows did you make? If it's traditional, she's broken her vows. Can you live with someone who's broken her vows. Or worse yet, did she even want to keep her vows? Why did she marry you? This makes you look at your wife in a new light. She's lied to you and has been living a double life for years that she'd hidden from you. Your detailed description of her going to work and not wanting you to reveal her alternate life to her parents seems to hint at more deception. Are you and your marriage part of her deception? Is she putting on a front to others? At worst, you can let her live her double life to find out if you can tolerate it. Maybe you can. Are kids part of your picture? But realize this, as she lies in her lover's arms her lover's hate for you and your hate for her can't be anything but toxic to you both. I'm sorry this has happened to you. Good luck.

  • I agree nothing happening with Kat, but if it keeps the wife happy you got to go with it, of course she should be able to find a more feminine lady to bring into your bedroom with her.

    Lick it, Stick it, Lick it again...

  • You should say yes. If you say no she will do it anyway, behind your back. Clearly you are entitled to a 3way in return, but not with Kat obviously. It's on your wife to find some other hottie.

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