I had to kick is cheating a** out

My ex and I were going through a rough patch, we didn’t really argue, but we are also really weren’t involved in each other’s life lives. The vibe at home got so wired that I camped out at my mom’s apartment for few months. During those months I noticed on his Facebook that the same girl likes his posts always. Fast forward to the week of his birthday, my mom had her friend over and they both suggested I return home for his birthday, during this everything was okay for a while until I noticed he was always on his phone and was not having my attention like he used to…. A close friend of mine that knew about this linked up with a tech guy “Phantom” we helped me to run a background check on her and my ex, all I had to do was to provide him with few info’s on my ex phone, I don’t know how he did but he was able to get complete access to his right in my device without me even having to touch his phone. I was able to monitor all his activities including his location, call logs text messages, gallery and all. I found out he was with the same girl a day to his birthday after I was back home. I asked him about it and he said it was an impulse and a plethora of other excuses. I never saw remorse in trying to gain access to his device and never really tried to get my trust back. I never felt fully heard and he even acted like nothing happened. I stayed because I was pregnant at this time. The second time this happened I had to kick him out because I was already drained in every way possible in this relationship. I’m happier without him and I’d rather be a single mom than ever deal with that again. I’m an empathy, so you can imagine how traumatic that was for me as at that time it has been over a year now since that happened .I’ve healed a lot from this; but my heart is definitely still raw regardless of how things ended and the horrible decision he made that ultimately ended our relationship .i still hate him for that ……because this has made me develop fear of intimacy

Aug 22

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  • I decided to work things out with my wife. I'm not sorry these last couple years have been really great. We had to work at trusting again. She had to transparent about everything including where she was going and who with. It was a long road back but totally worth it. She is the mother of our two children. She made a mistake . I decided to forgive her. I don't regret my decision. We are closer than ever before. I highly recommend you get help from professionals. It's really made the difference. They helped me forgive and her own what she did. It's help us be more open and communicative . Her cheating was more about us not really talking. It was very superficial . I have to own my part also. I wasn't meeting her needs mentally. It can work if you both have the right attitude.

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