My boyfriend an I have been together now for 4 years now. We have a little girl thats a year an a half old an I have a son from a previous relationship that's 8. He's great to all of us. He's literally my everything. I'm so open and honest about everything with him. About three weeks ago I was snooping through his phone on his Facebook (which I know was wrong in the first place) and I came upon a message from another women asking him if he wanted to be a part of her life or not? Immediately I confronted him an he told me that this women called him about a month prior stating she had a daughter to him 5 years ago an she wanted to know if he wanted to be a part of her life. I am so devastated. I know this happened before our relationship began but I am having a hard time dealing with the thought of this. He told me that he's decided to not want to be a part of her life because she knows another man as her father her whole life. But I have so many mixed feelings. I've confronted my boyfriend all of my feelings an it's pretty much he just ignores the whole thing like it's not a big deal but it is a big deal to me. I know i will always fear us running into this women an the daughter. I feel like it's going to happen one day. I want as much advice as I can please. Thank you.