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I love my wife, but she doesn't want to have **. She says that she loves me too, but I'm not sure if I believe her. The rare times we actually have ** its pretty passionless and forced. She tells me that she doesn't have any fantasies and she never even thinks about **.
I don't know what to do. I feel so sad and depressed. I've tried to talk to her about it, but it always turns into an argument.
I hate myself and feel pretty much worthless. I don't know what to do. We argued tonight and she told me I had two options. Accept the fact our marriage would always be sexless and this way, or leave her. She doesn't care which one I choose as she's just sick of arguing over it. She tells me that this is normal, and most women are in the same situations as her, and most men are in the same situation as me. I just can't believe there are that many unhappy people in this work. She has no interest in seeing anyone about this to talk it through, she's told me that's just the way she is.
I don't know what to do. I'm so unhappy. I love my wife, we have two children who I love more than anything. I've chosen to have to live with the situation because I don't want to be away from them, but I'm so angry at my wife for forcing me to make that choice.
I feel for you but I think you need to look inside... yourself. If there is love to be salvaged maybe you are going about it the wrong way. Re-build your relationship again and the ** will be sure to follow.
I am in the same situation as you are- except I have girl friends on the side. I know you dont want to leave her cause you love her (plus kids.. and alimony... dont want that). So just get a FWB. Its not illegal until you get caught.
I'm a woman and I can tell you that this is not how most women feel. If she refuses to have ** with you or at the least, discuss it, maybe you should leave.
My ex was like your wife. She left me on my birthday in 02. She turned out to be gay. I remarried 3 years laterto a passionate woman who loves **. Every woman I dated loved **. It isn't normal to never make love. It isn't normal to make love once a month.
Your wife may be hiding something very deep that may need respect- or for it to come out in the open. Sides, why don't you go back through the teen-age-like references on how to turn her on and see if that works. Sometimes a woman needs foreplay she wasn't even aware of.