Wife is a stripper

My wife "Sara" works at an all-nude strip club, not because she wanted to, but because she had to save us from financial ruin. We had both lost our jobs in the recession, unemployment only lasted so long, and we were quickly eating up our savings. I was the one to approach her about it, and didn't go over well at first. She understood what our situation was becoming, and she agreed to at least try it out.
She has a smoking hot body, even after having two kids. She went in for an audition, she wasn't sure what to wear, so she took a bikini. The manager was there and a few workers, he told her to go in the back and change into her bikini, and when they start the music to come out and dance. Well Sara can dance, and that went well, but when he told her to take off her top, she hesitated. The manager said, "If you can't show your t***, you won't ever be able to show your p****." I was surprised she quickly pulled off her top, and even took down her bottoms, a few of the workers whistled, and she smiled and relaxed. He hired her on the spot, told her to come in on Friday, one of the other girls would show her the ropes. On the car ride home I asked if she was alright with it. She started to cry a little, and said she would do whatever she had to help our family. The only thing she said was I wasn't to come watch her dance.
Well that was 18 months ago, and I will be honest it went better than I hoped for, she saved our a****. I have a new job, doesn't pay great, but it would be enough for us to struggle along with, and she could quit stripping. HOWEVER, she tells me she doesn't want to quit stripping, she actually likes it. She doesn't want to struggle along, and thinks we could build our saving back up with her working at the club. She is right, but I don't want anyone to find out she works there, our families would croak, especially her mother. Two of my friends already know because they go to the club(that's 2 to many), he told me the manager is constantly telling Sara to put her bikini back on when she comes off the stage, I guess she likes to walk around nude in the club, which is against the rules. Am I wrong wanting her to quit? I know I got her started, but we can make it without her working at the club now.

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  • BTW, sounds like she's learned to do it well. I suspect that the "forgetting" to out her bottoms back on is a calculated move to market customers for lap dances or VIP sessions. That's where the money is, and is perhaps more fun for her too than the stage grind. The manager knows what she's doing, of course. He's required to remind her from time to time, but I suspect he also knows that her getting out there on the edge is good for business, for both her and for the club. If that's the game they'VE worked out, you need to support her there too (and learn to enjoy seeing her do it yourself).

    I"d be inclined to thank your friends for keeping you posted. But do it with a smile and assure them that you are cool, and that you and your wife are both having fun with her adventure. And make absolutely sure that SHE knows how cool and encouraging you can be. This needs to be a fun shared adventure for both of you.

    Congrats on your smokin' hot wife. The two of you have the makings a of an exciting relationship together. Good luck.

  • Two things seem to have changed in the 18 months: she has learned to enjoy doing what you encouraged her to do, and you have developed some insecurities that you didn't seem to have when you began. My sense is that you should leave the money talk aside. It may have been the excuse to get her started, but the financial considerations don't seem to have really changed that much. It's probably more honest and respectful to keep the discussions focused on the sexuality factors, since that seems to be what's now bothering you, and what she has learned to enjoy. My guess is that you enjoyed your wife showing off her "smoking hot body" in the beginning, and enjoyed encouraging her to loose the inhibitions. An appropriate goal at this point might be to get back to enjoying it, and sharing that enjoyment together.

    For starters, I'd renegotiate the "no visits at club" rule. You need to get comfortable with seeing her flirt and strip, and she needs to see that you can not only handle it, but that you will still encourage her. She has probably learned to have fun with it, so the two of you should learn to share that fun together. You probably won't be able to see her in action in the VIP rooms, but you probably already imagine. Let her know you're cool with it. It may take some time, but you'll hopefully get to the point where she can tease you and tell you hot stories, and the sharing will be a turn-on for both of you.

  • I'm currently dating a stripper but knew she was stripping from the start.I never used to mind it, but it bothers me now. She's trying to quit but probably never will. Like you, if friends find out it can become disastrous, some know she strips and it's caused issues with me and my friends.I think deep down many men dream of dating a stripper but it's tougher than one would think.

  • Here are your options - tell her to quit and go get a second job to make up for the financial hit or don't complain if she is doing what she needs to do to provide for your family.

    Here's something else to consider, she enjoys having men look at her and it excites her to be wanted. If that's the case, you have bigger problems sport.

  • Unfortunately I have to agree with this one. If it were my wife personally, and we fell into financial trouble, and the thing she had in mind was selling her body, I'd be out the door. That's just me personally. Of course, I'd be handling my business before the issue ever came up.

  • Actually, she doesn't think much about being naked in front of men now, it use to bother her a little. She said she is use to it. Probably why she wants to keep doing it, she said it is easy money. I realize there maybe other problems with stripping, like the family finding out.

  • Have you sat down and really allied to each other? Express your fears, concerns, and feelings? Do you have trouble doing that? Perhaps you should both write down those things. Make a pros and cons list. Something to start a truely open talk where you can express yourself with fear of causing a fight. Do you have a set of rules in your marriage? Most people have an "unspoken" set of rules. But if your have a real concern about this, then maybe you should set up something where you can call a time out so you two can clear the air so to speak before something blows up. Just a thought

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