Career beats love every time
I put my career before relationships all the time. When I think about the happiest times in my career vs. the happiest times in my love life, the career happiness is just so much stronger. Don't get me wrong, I'm with the love of my life and I never want to lose him. But I know that my work can never hurt me or disappoint me, and it's safe, and I always find comfort in it. And I love being successful in it. Even when I'm up there, working like insane through the night just to find the right answer, it's worth it. I'd rather be alone and successful than a failure at what I do and in some apparently "great" relationship. It's lonely sometimes, yes, but I think it's totally worth it. My long-term boyfriend has no idea I feel this way. And we're in the same field. It's easier to work because we currently don't live in the same city, and won't get to live together for at least 4 more years.