I finally blasted my MIL... and there's a custody battle
I currently have a restraining order against my husband. We cannot have any contact with each other. He lives with his parents, and I have been interacting with his parents about our four year old son's needs when he goes over there every other weekend.
However, every time I bring up an issue (like our son telling me that he was coughing all weekend because he was constantly around cigarette smoke), my mother in law flips out and starts calling me names and hurling all kinds of crazy accusations towards me... like accusing me of never taking our son to school (I take him every day unless he's sick) and accusing me of having guys from the internet living with me (ummm... my brother stayed with me for a month... but that's the only person that has even so much as spent the night). I don't say anything offensive to her... I just state the facts (like, "he said he was coughing all weekend because of the cigarette smoke", nothing more, nothing less) and if applicable I leave suggestions (like "if this happens again in the future, please call his pediatrician" when she gave our four year old medicine meant for a six year old based on her pharmacist's advice after already being told his pediatrician said absolutely no medicines besides Children's Tylenol without his prior approval).
Anyways, I finally lost it on her last night. I gave her the facts on the things she was accusing me of, said that would be the last time I was willing to do that, made it clear that I don't value her opinions on parenting because she was a terrible mother herself according to her son and loved ones, and told her if she starts that kind of crap again in the future I'm just going to ignore her like the rest of her friends and family have to do (she's pretty well known for going on fabricated tirades).
I'm kind of concerned though that her or my husband may bring my outburst out in court as a sign of mental instability. I don't really see how that could happen considering I've been dealing with these tirades of hers for three months now without ever saying anything nasty back, even though these tirades of hers prevents our son from getting the care he needs because she's so h*** bent on denying everything, being contrary (if I say he needs one thing she does the complete opposite and then attacks me if I say anything about it), and shifting the blame to me ("you're just putting false memories in his head" she says). What makes it worse is our son is just learning what to do in a sexual abuse situation (good touching/bad touching etc.), and he has indicated that my husband is sexually abusing him and when he tries to get help from his grandparents when it happens they just try to cover it up (yes, I've reported it, but child protective services is doing nothing about it).
It should also be noted I have had not one but two mental health professionals, one of which has treated me for over 4 years, give me a clean bill of health since my husband has been claiming in court that I'm mentally unstable.
Anyone know if this one outburst is going to hurt me in the long run?