Scared I will Never Get a White Woman Pregnant

Oh, and you do intend on supporting the child (and future children) financially, correct? I'm sure you wouldn't want to mess up his marriage and family situation or put any financial hardship on him. After all, you will benefit from having their beautiful children in your family and will play a big part in their lives. I know it doesn't fell like it now, but he is providing both you and your wife with a tremendous blessing-remember that.

Everything you say focuses on making things better for HIM, not for me (not once), but to be candid, that's exactly the way SHE speaks now, too. That's her entire focus in her life all day every day. He does dominate her, like you described, and she submits. But then she dominates me in return. And the financial part has already been laid out to me by both him and her, together, letting me know that I am to be named as the father on the birth certificate because I am the husband of the mother. And I am to pay all the bills, carry the child on my insurance, pay tuition, etc., though they will make the decisions about what bills will be incurred, what insurance is best, what schools (even pre-schools) will be attended, and everything else. But you've written more than once about pride of ownership, and I resisted it, though I have been thinking about it a lot. I was wrong and you were right: it's true. And it's true -- so so so true -- for both of them. He's proud of stepping into this marriage and taking my wife as his property, just like you expressed, and to have her BELONGING to him, and she's proud that this man is her owner and is controlling her and her body. She's also proud of the way he manipulates ME, which I truly hate to admit (and wouldn't admit if this weren't confidential). Yeah, they are both proud of themselves and of what they're doing, and of the fact that I am utterly helpless to stop it or even influence any of the outcomes. I can't believe it's happening, or that I'm a part of it. And I have to say it's incredible how you see all this without even being in it.

Of course you're not helpless and are free to leave, especially since you have no kids with your wife. But you've said before that you won't do that because you still love her and and are glad to see her so happy-even though her lover is the one making her happy. Since you made the choice to stay, you must accept the responsibilities that come with that, including accepting his role as the man of the house and loving and supporting their children. He will most likely allow you access to your wife's body once the first baby is born (but be prepared to always wrap it up-he'll insist), so be patient and hang in there. Of course, if he does grant you that access, it will end when they plan their second.
One more thing: he is married with kids, so he won't always be around-he'll need to spend plenty of time with his wife and other kids. Use that time to work on your relationship with your wife, which obviously must be a platonic friendship for now.