Two faced manipulating step-daughter
I've been married to a wonderful man for 19 years. His two girls were 13 and 20 when we married, their mother had been killed in a car accident a year before we married, but they had been divorced for over a year when she died. The youngest girl chose to live with her mother's parents to continue going to the same school, and all the way through college. Both girls inherited over $50,000 from their mother's death. The oldest daughter has always been very sweet to me and we get along great. The youngest has been distant. They have both told me several times that their mother was a controlling and hateful wife to their dad. She was very mean to him and didn't allow them to have anything in the house that might cause her "allergies" to act up but spend most of her time at her own mom & dads house which was filled with cigarette smoke, carpet, cats and dogs. My husband tells me that the youngest girl spent most of her time with her mother and very little with him. Just before she married at 23, she
wrote me a letter telling me she was happy for her dad that he found someone to love but she didn't want me in her life. I was not to be part of her "family unit" as she put it. Her dad told her that she could just leave him out, too if that was how she felt. Later on after she had her first child, she asked me if I would babysit for her while she worked during the day. I kept her for four months and was never offered a dime, after being told she would pay me $50 a week. I quit a part-time job to care for her child. Since years have passed, I find that I cannot like this woman, she is passive aggressive, snide and two-faced. Goes behind my back and talks about me and then just smiles up a storm to my face. I feel like we need a truce but don't know what to do. She comes over to visit with her 3 kids (7, 5 & 2) and lets them throw magazines around in the living room, jump on the sofa, take mulch and throw it out of my flower beds, stomp on my plants outside and it goes on and on. What should I do?????