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Get Her Pregnant?
So my kids mom is going to be 30 this summer.I already have 2 sons with her, who are now toddlers.She and I have never really gotten along for the last 6 years that we have known each other. We have joint custody of the sons and we do our best to be civil and get by.She is the one who did not want me after the kids were born saying am too old for her,though she says I give her the best **. In any case,the youngest son is now 4.She found out, the other day,that her friend is pregnant, with her 2nd child. She started texting me,from the friend's house-I believe,that her biological clock is ticking and she wants another baby, or possibly twin girls.I told her there are plenty of men to give her twins.She said she will consider adopting even a relative, so that she can avoid pregnancy and labor pains, and I asked her if she had looked at the adoption costs online,which she checked and got shocked. When I got up today,I decided this: as awful and mean as she has been to me,I am going to meet with her and propose getting her pregnant for up to 2 kids.I KNOW SHE WILL SAY YES. My reasoning is this;When I first me her,she never wanted,and I don't want her, to have kids from two different men.I feel its bad for our sons.If she has kids from someone else,I don't want to have to pick mine up, for visitation, and leave the other ones behind,but I also don't want to take another guy's kids with me either.This is partly because I don't want to explain that to my sons,and also she does not like my grown kids from a previous marriage.She is hard working and getting to be an ok mother,though she will never be a wife to me.Please tell me what you think and feel. Sorry its so long.Thanks.
She wants you, physically, sexually and biologically, and she wants you to be the father of her children. Those are powerful things for a woman to admit, particularly one so young as yours. Most women don't want men to know how badly they want them, but instead try to manipulate their man into believing that he wants that specific woman. But yours is opening herself up by being so honest about wanting YOU and for you to be the one who knocks her up. She knows you're a good father, and YOU know you're a good father, so having another child or children with her will make her so happy, and her happiness and the happiness of the child or children HAS to make your life better. But I think there's another way this could really improve things: either by her own decision, or by your telling her that it's what you want (or that it's a condition to your serial **-sharing), it's entirely possible that the new pregnancies and the new babies will drive the two of you back together, in a renewed and better relationship. That last part is a more distant possibility, I realize, but it's there and it can't be discounted. Who knows what's in store for you and the mother . . . after you've shared more ** with her? Another possible condition you could add: you'll only do this if she's really dedicated to becoming pregnant. Meaning? She's going to have to let you ** her, your way, your location, your position, your choice, every day for, just say, a month. She can't say no, as the deal would go, and she's got to take WHATEVER ** you want to give her. "We're trying to make a baby, right?" For a month (or whatever period YOU choose), she has to be walking around or sleeping with a ** filled with your **. 24/7. GO GET HER! And make your life better.
I see your point and thanks for the detailed explanation. I will not ask or remind her about this baby issue.I already told her where I stand and if she wants the baby she will let me know. I used to want to have ** with her because I really cared for her,but since last summer,my desire has diminished or is almost gone.If I ever have ** with her,It will be purposely for procreation.Though she knows I am a good dad,she works extremely hard to give me no credit or acknowledgement.I decided not to care what she thinks or says,I just do what I think is good for me and the kids, or even her.
Sorry to read this. I really thought that maybe she was finally growing up. I know, eighteen is supposed to be mature and she's thirty, but some kids are mature at fifteen, and others aren't at thirty-five, and your lady sounded like one of those that mature late, after they've seen enough of the world to know that they can't change it, but that it changes them. I still have hope that she'll grow up, and I still hope that happens while she has your baby deep in her womb. Or your manhood deep in her flower.
You sure got that right,lol.Most people who know her say she's too childish and selfish.She used to be up in the sky full of herself but in the last few years,enough ** has happened to her that she has come down a notch.As you said,the world would probably change her to be normal some day.She used to tell me that no man can out think her.I see men out thinking her often. One boyfriend she had, and that she was throwing at my face every chance she got, waited for her to go to school,rented a truck and loaded everything from the apt.When she showed up,he was getting done.He had tricked her into selling her stuff and putting some in storage.It was his lease too.She slept on the floor for a few days,wanted to move in with me without giving me a reason and I said no. She finally moved in with out baby sitter and told her not to tell me she was living there.After a few months she got her own apt.That was after she had hooked back up with an ex bf,whom she was also bragging to me about had either dumped her or lost interest.It seems like she wanted to hook up with a much younger cousin of mine but the cousin balked,and avoids her like the plague.
These days,she does not talk about men,she has not said a word to me about any guy close to a year now.If she has one,she keep him a secret.