Husband Upset about My Past

I have been married for almost two years to a lovely guy. We have been 100% faithful since getting married. We met at work, and we're both 24. Our marriage has been for the most part strong, although we recently have gone through a little bump.

Last week we were watching TV together, and the subject of threesomes came up. He asked me if I ever had been in one. I admitted that I had, back when I was single. I even admitted that it was with a couple of guys with the company for which we work, although I'm no longer friends with them. What I didn't tell him was that sometimes these sessions would be foursomes, as one of the guy's girlfriends would join in. We were simply young and having fun experimenting with s**.

My husband is a very conservative guy, and I could tell that he was upset that I ever could have been so casual with s**. I think he is bothered by the fact that he knows the guys in question. My husband was a virgin when we started seeing each other, and I think he might be jealous of the s** that I've had before him, although he won't admit it. In recent days he has made some repeated off-hand comments about it, when it should have been a dead topic, IMO. He just won't let it go.

I shouldn't have said anything, but it is done.

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  • That was a big mistake on your part ,and he knows these guys wow. This could be real trouble!

  • This is a tough relationship issue... I can relate and give you his perspective or what he is thinking or feeling. My guess is that you shattered the "idea or image" that he had about you as a person and his girlfriend or wife. This happened to me but was much worse situation wise. But you guys are married so this creates another problem because walking away isn't as easy. So you can work thru it but you should have really talked and gotten to know each other better before getting married. Marriage is a big thing. Its not the end of the world but its not great either. The thing I would stress is Be Honest and don't hold things back because when girls do this and many, many, many, do, all it does is create a long time period of thinking that you know someone and then when you find out the truth about them you go back in your mind and think what else was not true and then you wonder do you really even know whats true or not. If your honest at least it will all be out there for you guys and him to make a decision about your marriage and or how to work thru it. But I'd say be honest as soon as possible especially while this issue is still recent. Nothing worse than trying to go thru or remember truth after so many years of lies or omitted facts. When I found out the truth or some of the truth about my gf of many many years 7. It crushed me. It really destroyed me and I never recuperated and never got any peace about our relationship. She easily moved on to have kids and make a home with someone else but it was easy for her since she had no questions about anything regarding us. Some people don't care or consider other peoples feelings or lives and its just not a good thing or nice thing to do. Why so many unhappy people out there and so little hope. Bad experiences kill peoples souls. I can speak because I'm one of them. Your husband is very hurt because he didn't expect nor think that you were like that probably.

  • Might want to build up his ego. tell him that he is the best you have had, true or not. Tell him the diff between s** and making love. That might help some.
    I had a very extensive s** life when I married my ex and my wife now. I chose to not tell either of them about my past. They knew for sure I had experience, wondered just how much. I had been paid to preform at an orgy, had been paid to do a few older women. Neither needed to know that part of my life.
    Men have big ego's and want to be the best you have.

  • What did you guys talk about before you got married ? These are things you all should of talked about when dating .
    Glad you told the truth especially if your husband works with them this could of been worse if one of the guys told him about the 3 some . I think you should of told him the 4 some now that he knows he may ask them questions and find out you had a 4 some .

    I think he's more p***** that you had it and he never did , who knows maybe he might ask you if you would like to try it again with him , I would say yes this way he can experience it and get it out of his system .

  • Your boy is immature. You should expect that from him since he did not get any prior to you. If he cant get over it. Ask if it make him feel better to have a 3sum with you. The sad part is he probably isnt even f****** you correctly. As you did not even mention s** with him in your comnent. Sucks because a woman like you deserves sexual forfilment. I bet you think about s** before him all the time. Correct?

  • He'll get over it. Why? Because you gave all that up . . . FOR HIM!

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