He asks for my help, how to react?
I dont know where to start so I will go from the beginning, it may take a while.
Less than a year ago me and him started a relationship which was intensive and beautiful. I felt happy as never before in my life. The future of the relationship was questionable from the beginning, since I was much older than him and we lived in different countries.
We had great time when I was there, and we kept it going til my next visit which was one month later. When I came again, I spent 10 days in his city, we met once and the rest of the time he avoided me. When I was leaving I texted him goodbye, which is when he wrote to me like: sorry this must end, its not good... bla bla, for religious reasons (he is religious and what we did goes far beyond some of the preaching in the religion).
I was g****** crushed, but I just wrote OKAY. For me it was an ultimate heartbreak and I cried for days, for months... I never told him any of that, Im too proud to share it with anyone I know. I just wrote to him - you broke my heart. Out communication since then was very very very brief, texting twice a month, where he was barely communicating (busy, sleepy, tired), etc.
For me, whenever he texts me that was huge - I was flying, even when it was brief and boring, almost like a robot. Im good how are you? Okay. Yes. Im working. Im tired. I will sleep. Bye. You are good. You are polite. You are kind. Bye.
I never read any of these txts as love signs, to be clear, I know how to recognize his lack of interest.
Sometimes he asks if I miss him, or he writes he misses me. But the length of our conversation never confirmed that he really does miss me. Its always short and brief. So...
ANyway, today he called, for the first time since the break up (7 months). I didnt pick up because I panicked. I wrote to him, whats up. He said he is looking for an internship in Europe and he needs my help. Basically.
He said (via recorded msg): How can I find it? Can you help me? Please. I love you.
He really does need my help since Im good with that stuff and he knows it. But I cant go pass the fact that he broke me into pieces, he ignored me while I was in his city, he dumped me via txt while I was at the airport, he didnt write, and now he comes for help as if nothing has happened.
I need to also mention his lack of experience with girls(hes 20, im 25) and cultural difference, but then again, there is no cultural/age excuse for such moronic treatment. He treated me like queen when we were together, I could feel the love and appreciation. But it all stopped that day when he left me. So I know its in him, but he is not giveing it to me. So...
now he looks for internship, in my city, or in any other EU city. And he wants me to help him.
We texted a bit about it, I asked what kind of internship, where, and I found my self googling it. And then I thought... wait a minute... wait... should I be doing this at all?