My wife's boss

My wife stayed overnight at her Docs Beach condo they rented. She called me this morning and told me to come over and clean since they are done. When I got there I had a list to wash all the dishes .Clean the sheets and bathroom and some of the clothes they leave there. She also told me to go pickup water and other things. She said to the doc in front of me that I was a good house heepee but as a husband my ** was too small and I could not perform for her. Then she kissed him deep on the lips and said goodbye and kissed me deep and said do a good job honey.

I know that must have hurt so much, to hear her make that comparison between your ** and his; really humiliating, really horrible, right in front of both of you standing in the same room. I'm so sorry that happened. I know men are really supersensitive about that (although that's always been a little baffling to me), in addition to the fact that he's ** her right in front of you, more or less, which displays -- without any words -- that she prefers him to you, sexually and otherwise. The embarrassment and abuse is probably going to get worse, although I hope not, for your sake. God bless.

I know I am not that small. Just not as big as her doc and the guy from the gym. I can also perform. Just not with her since she has spent two months emasculating me.
She knows how to make me want her as she can be so nice and loving when we are alone. There are opportunities for me to sleep with another woman but I feel weird like I would be cheating. She has said to me she would not tolerate that.

Went to the gym last night and the guy my wife did came up to me and asked where my wife was. I just walked away.
About 40 minutes later she showed up to work out. He walked over before I could and said something. They started to work out together.she did not even come over. He started training her and stood close wherever he could. After a while she came over and said we are going follow me.
We drove down a long old road till the end. It was supposed to be to get to beach island but they ran out of money.
They both got out and got into my truck.
He immediately ripped open her blouse and pants and kissed her all over. She was grabbing his muscular arms and pulling him into her. He dragged her out of the car into the freezing cold and took her from behind. After she came he turned her around ,pushed her down and finished on her chest. She called me over stood up and pulled my face into her chest and said that is a real man.
We all just left but she first told me not to wipe my face. When she looked at me later she will be reminded of a real man.
I am so turned on by her. Tonight she is staying at her docs house while I fold laundry and do the list she gave me

Her sexuality is so amazing. You are lucky to be married to such a woman. Even though you aren't getting any of her **, you're still incredibly lucky to belong to her and to be allowed to serve her. But you're going to have to maintain your attitude and always be supportive and happy for her, even when she mocks you for your inferiority to these other men she is becoming involved with, and even if she decides to humiliate you by dating in public. It won't be easy watching her being taken by these superior men, or listening to her describe their prowess and skill. And their size. She won't be able to wean herself off those big big ** she's getting now, so you're just going to have to learn to cope with her affairs, her flings and even her occasional one-nighters (most of which will likely end with her screaming and moaning as she's ** in your bed at home, the bed you once shared with her). She has two lovers now, but very very soon, two won't be nearly enough. You know that.

....wow that thing she did to you with his cream was hot.........how did you feel with it on you..........

She's looking to trade up. Start packing.

I know this will sound retarded but it's true. I knew my wife and her boss were having an affair a couple years ago. They would usually go to motels or B&Bs, but lots of times they just came to our apartment to ** because he couldn't take her to his house where his wife and family was. I would come in sometimes and could hear them ** in the bedroom or the bathroom, and that bothered me, but I knew I couldn't stop them because she wanted him and she gets what she wants. But then, one night I came in from work and they were on the sofa in front of the TV and they were making out. Just kissing. Fully clothed and not even ** or petting. Just tongue kissing. For some weird reason, that bothered me more than hearing them **. I can't explain it, but it just hurt so bad that I had to leave the apartment and I didn't go back until I was sure he went home.

Does she still sleep with him or anyone else

Not sleeping with him, but only because he got transferred to a branch out of town. She still sees him sometimes, but only when he comes here for company meetings and stays overnight. She just broke up with another guy during the holidays, but not somebody she worked with, just a guy she was dating for a few months. However, since that breakup she has been on three dates with someone new, and it seems like somebody she might eventually get serious about, I just don't know. She can be hard to read at the beginning of a relationship: very secretive, and very mean (more than normal).

She's becoming more and more bold in her infidelity. Does that not trouble you?

I am uneasy and anxious but drawn too her more. She seems only interested in physical pleasure and being wanted by men. Controlling them. And of course me. I take care of everything while she lives to be pleased. I am mixed up but totally obsessed with her.

My wife and I went to our gym yesterday. We both work out on our own since we do different things. There is a guy that always works out around her but she does not pay attention too.
Yesterday they talked on and off. He is about 45 tall thin very cut. Thick silver hair. When he works out around her he lifts up his shirt to get cooled quick....Total washboard abs.
When we left and got in the car my wife told me to pull over at the end of the parking lot. He pulled behind us . They both jumped into the back of my SUV and he immediately pounded her **. She came in 2 minutes. Turned around and went crazy rubbing his arms and chest. He finished in her mouth and got right out. She jumped in the front grabbed my head and deep kissed me. It all flowed in my mouth.
She told me I better not tell her doctorlover. She always knew that guy wanted her bad and he was so hot.
Ishe thinks the doc f_____ his wife and that is cheating even though he says he didn't.
If I say anything she will f the whole gym and tell them I am small and can't perform. I wouldn't anyway. I live her and love when she comes and is happy

OMMFG! The way she shared his love with you orally is one of the sexiest things I've ever heard of! I really do love that and I hope you appreciate the deep intimacy that represents between you and your wife: yes, the cream came from her new lover, but she gave it to you as if it were a special gift. Thank you so much for telling us about it. Do you think she intends to begin an affair with him, too? I certainly do hope so. And also: since you got a look at him while they were making love, does he possess that certain physical trait that she looks for in her men now? Gigantic **-size?

I am sure she will . He is her type from top to bottom. Thin and muscular . Especially his arms. She hates roid guys but loves natural muscular. And about 6 2. .
I dis watch everything including him slowly entering her. He was big and she winced when he went in.
I am sure she will do it again with him. I got so turned on by the whole thing including the kiss. Vwhen we went home I massaged her to sleep and she slept so good.

Jesus.......the way she controls all her men is just perfect. If I was a man I would want to be controlled by her in this way. And being a woman.......I wish I could handle men like she does. The way she poured his love into you..............Mother of Christ.......

I got a new boss last summer. At first we didnt like each other at all. But then we started getting along. Eventually we started to flirt. We did a LOT of flirting. Finally at our office Christmas party I told him to either start ** me or stop teasing me. So he ** me. At the party. With our spouses in the same building in the next room. Now it looks like we are going to have a serious affair. Thats fine with me because the man is hung like a ** horse and he knows how to throw that ** around. My boss wants us to tell my husband about the affair to rub his nose in all of it. That seems ** to me. But I don't know how to do it or how to get it started. Do we just go to him and say it? Or let him catch us in bed? Or have a girlfriend I know tell him about the relationship? I'm kind of lost.......

Be honest break it to him slowly like my wife did. Tell him you love the ** but are staying with him. If you let him catch you he may overreact. I am OK with my wife being wined and dined and having the ultimate org___m.

He knows I've cheated in the past and he let it slide because I just treated it like it was nothing. Plus I've always kind of pushed him around and he allows it......and I think he enjoys it. But what my boss wants is something more long-term and right in my husband's face. What I want is for my husband to be exactly like YOU, just to be honest. I want him to know that I'm getting properly laid, for once in my life, and to be supportive.......and jealous. And I want him to know that what I'm getting in between my legs now is something HE could never match.

It's sounds like your marriage is much like mine. She was always demanding and it is all about her.
I think if you tell him this is what you want and need and will do noatter what he will become obsessed like I am. I am jealous but love to see her pleased. And I will always take care of her needs. Let your boss f you and after you tell your husband he can rub it in his face. My wife's lover knows he owns my wife and let's me know it in many ways.
You sound like you are a true demanding woman.

I went out last night to see him. I dressed in a brand new ** outfit, just for him, the most revealing I could find. While I was getting ready, my husband "demanded" to know where I was going and who I was meeting, but I just laughed at him. It made him furious. And again I laughed. And then I left. I came back home after midnight, and he was waiting for me, "demanding" answers again. I told him it wasn't his concern and it wasn't his business, and that things would be changing around here. I just left it at that and went to bed. He was still super-** this morning when I left to go to work. I can tell it's eating him alive. But I can tell he's aroused by my behavior, too, precisely as you said.

....your wife sounds like a real hot piece........was she always like that.......or is this recent?

She was wild before we married. A virgin till 20 than 3 different guys in one night was not uncommon or so she told me.
We got married and she was very loyal for 20 years till this doctor chased her. Now she is literally crazy living the s__ and doing what she wants anywhere

My wife and her lover just rented a little. Condo by the beach so they don't have to go to motels. It's really nice. I just painted it for them. She thinks I did such a great job. While I was painting they were on the bedroom floor making love.

You sound like you're okay with their relationship, so much so that you're willing to help them with their love flat. It's very brave of you to sacrifice yourself to their involvement. I hope your willingness to support them this way produces some benefit to you, although to be honest, I can't see how it could. But I don't need to see it: only YOU need to see it. Good luck to you.

My wife's doctor lover got snowed in last night at our house since his BMW cannot go in the snow. I heard them going at it all day taking breaks to watch movies and eat. If she needed water or food she would text me to bring it to them. She must have had 4 or 5 **. At least. He takes a pill to stay hard for two hours. She texted me this morning to clean off his car and warm it up. When he left she told me to massage her since she was so tired. She told me how sore he made her and stressed her and that it hurt but she loved it. She said lucky I can't f her because she wouldn't feel it. I massaged her for hours. I love her body and I am so turned on by her.
She had him f her all night than me take care of her today by massage and cleaning up after them. I am just too obsessed with her.

The relationship they have is so totally romantic. It's like a romance story or a movie. And I'll be shocked if someone doesn't write a novel based on their love. I have a idea of what she means when she tells you that he loves her body so hard it hurts, and I think she will keep on enticing him to return to her and hurt her and hurt her and hurt again that way over and over. I have a couple of questions that I hope you won't mind coming from a stranger (but if you do, I apologize). First does she tell you that she loves him? And second does she make you watch them as they make love so for long?

I am glad to answer your questions. This is the only chance to discuss my life since I cannot talk to anyone about this.
She has not said she actually loves him but has said she loves being with him both physically and with the time spent. She seems to crave his attention and has spent as much time as she can with him.
I never saw them have ** but have been in the house or next room while they are. And I do see them holding each other in bed after while she request me to bring her things or do something. They spend hours after just binge watching TV and will make love over and over but I never saw him take her that way. I only hear it. Then when he is not around she will tell me how he took her and different things he does . She will remind me that he knows every spot that I don't in such a short time.
I think she is just waiting to say she actually loves him.

I totally appreciate your sharing your life with all us here. I know that can not be easy for you to do. I honestly had not even thought about what your friends must think or the fact that you could not talk to ANY of them about ANY of this. Even tho you enjoy your wifes happiness it must be painfull for you to actually deal with while its happening. Plus listening to him make love to her repeatedly and hearing her moans and groans of such intense loving pleasure and hearing her beg him to ** her more and knowing that hes doing all that to her in your bed has to be just so heart breaking. I'm so sorry that your having to see that in your daily life and having him come over whenever he wants and having her call him to come over there and do her where you can hear him doing her. Something else to ask you occurred to me after reading more of what you have wrote here. If you dont want to answer I will totally understand because I know it must seem like I am trying to be hurtful even tho I am not so you can just say you dont want to answer and I will respect that. But here goes: when he is there at your house in bed with your wife where is the daughter the two of you have together? Do you send her to friends or to her grandparents houses? And does she know anything about mommy having a special friend?

My daughter is always out. She stays at her friends and her older cousin a lot. She also is out doing activities mostly all weekend which I do take her to. She does not know.
I suspect my wife's friends know by how when I see them around town they look or talk to me.
Thanks for your understanding what I am going through. It is hard. Last night she actually said your like my dog.... Then said only kidding. She is not. Just slipped out

My wifes boss is after her. Hes not as aggressive as your wifes boss. At least not yet. I keep telling her she needs to file ** harassment on him. She says she doesnt want that rep. She says she doesnt want the hassle. But I think she actually enjoys having him after her. She says nothing will ever happen. She says she wont let it because its wrong. I dont know if I believe that or if I can trust her hot and ** little **.

Her replies seem like she has no intention of stopping him. She says it's wrong...Not that she does not want to or she is not attracted. That is like saying I want to but I should not.
My wife said the same type of things but became obsessed with the attention. She brought it up so much I knew she was interested. All in a way that sounded she was bothered but I could tell she loved the attention. If this keeps up your wife will go for it. The only difference will be my wife told me and took over my life. I am really her caretaker . Here to make her life easy while he enjoys her. This is now my life. Making her happy. Watching her enjoy another man. My obsession with her makes me feel OK with it. You may just be the unsuspecting husband

Yes it seems like there are things starting to move forward with them. I overheard her last night talking on her cell in the laundry room while she thought I was in the back in bed and it sounded like she was making a date for Friday night. I went back to the bedroom and hurried up and laid down like I'd been there all the time. She was smiling when she come back to the room and I ask her why and she said she wasn't smiling and said no reason at all. Then this morning while she was in the shower I looked at her phone and it didn't show any calls at all at that time not made or received. SO........she deleted that call to hide it. Something is happening and shes lying about whatever it is to keep me from knowing about it.

Have they returned from Las Vegas yet? Has she told you about the trip? Has she told you about the **? Did they join the Mile-High Club on the way, or on the way back, or both, or neither? Did they have a Cheaters Wedding while they were there?

I just picked her up this morning. She told me she had a wonderful time. She said the night before I picked them up they went to a hotel bar ,Frank and danced. She said he deep kissed her there and touched her all over. Then on the way back to the room he did it again in the hall. When they got back to the room he pushed her against the window and took her from behind. She reminded me I never did that but also said I probably couldn't before and definitely not now. She was happy how I cleaned up and did the list she left. I massaged her for an hour at least then she took a nap. I was so turned on but I could not get hard when I touched her. I went to my room and was able to and finished thinking of her.

Yes. I know you can see it. Can't you? All of that -- everything you wrote -- will form the foundation of your future with her. You can feel it, yes? You will drop her off at her dates with him. You will pick her up from the dates . . . when he's finished with her. And in between, you will take care of the house, take care of her errands, take care of your daughter. When you bring her home from the dates, she will tell you about how wonderful he was. How romantic he was. How well he treated her. How skilled he was at arousing her. How incredible he was at satisfying her. How dominant he was. How manly he was. And she will always, always, always slip in some indication of how hung he is, and how much bigger, longer and thicker he is than you, while always reminding you of your inability to attain an ** in her presence. She will smile at you because of that . . . with pity in her eyes. "That never happens with him." She'll say that even though she knows you know it. And the more your failure to perform in her presence comes to frustrate and humiliate you, the greater will be the arousal and release when you retreat to your room and make love with her . . . in absentia. What you wrote? That will now be your life. Do you see? And don't you love her more now than you did before? Seriously. Don't you?

Yes I know that now but I do not fully understand how and why I do it and am so untangled in her new life and drawn in and feel in a weird way more attracted and obsessed with her than ever. Always aroused but so intimated that I can't perform. This same woman I slept with hundreds of times.
Yesterday I washed and folded 5 loads of laundry from their trip including his. Also ironed all the clothes needed for the week.
I was so exhausted and she knew but still I had to massage her to sleep. I went to sleep wanting her so bad. Told her she was the most beautiful woman alive then went to my matress in the other room.
You seem to know so much about my feelings and where this relationship has gone?

Dropped my wife off at the airport to meet her lover and head off to Vegas. I parked the car and told her I was also going away to FLA to meet my friend.
She went ballistic telling me I had no Right and that there was a million chores I needed to do while she was away. Also if my daughter wanted to come home early from her friends she wouldn't be able too. She screamed at me to go home in the airport lobby.
I was so humiliated. I just walked away. Now I'm in South Beach! I needed this time to relax and have fun.

Your wife was correct: you don't have the right to meet someone else or to avoid your responsibilities. Or to not do as you're told. Their weekend away should have been romantic and wonderful and carefree, and filled with love. And now you're ruining that. Please regain your senses and go home. In addition to it being the right thing to do, if you DON'T do that, your wife and her lover are going to burn your life to the ground. And you know they can do it. Please........go home. Please. Now. Please?

Seriously you are right. I feel guilty and just sat in the room after I had dinner with my high school friends. I just booked a 7:45 flight in the morning. It was good to have dinner with them and as long as I am home by new year's Eve it is fine with her. Thanks for the advice.

I'm so pleased that you found your way. Their relationship is so special, and this holiday trip is important to both of them. What they have is wonderful and they deserve to enjoy Vegas without distraction. It's nice that you recognized that and worked to make their time away go smoothly. You are becoming a very good husband.

Forgive me for wading in against the tide of support for your "choice", but I feel like I must. First, you made no "choice" because you weren't given one: you simply recognized the inevitability of her infidelity. But while her infidelity may be inevitable, your acceptance of it is not. She‘s making her own "choice", without considering you or your feelings. That's wrong. And it’s unacceptable. Her "choice" violates not just a marriage vow but the entire premise of marriage: partnership, love and support. Second, I assume the boss is also married, which means he's violating his own bond. But even if not, he's enticing your wife to violate hers: also, wrong. Third, you have a child, a daughter. Her mother's example is not one she should be raised with, and if you remain in the marriage, you’ll be providing a fatherly example that she should ALSO not be raised with. And finally, while your impulse to stay married and loyal is (I guess) noble, it encourages her uncontrolled selfishness and is dispiriting to you; if not now, soon, and forever. You can't stay. I apologize, but you can't. There may be appeal to being the sacrificial and long-suffering spouse, but it's not healthy for you or your daughter [Yeats said that too much suffering makes a stone of the heart]. Bitterness will creep in and consume you. Your life has value and importance, too, and you (and she) should act accordingly. I'm only very rarely pro-divorce, but your situation demands it. Rid yourself of this weight, and be gone from her. Seek judicial custody of your daughter, and attempt to keep your wife away from the girl. Not out of spite, but because she is a bad influence and a bad mother. Leave the house today and stay away. Don't be her lap dog or punching bag or indentured servant, or whatever other metaphor you prefer. Get gone. Stay gone. Do it before Christmas. Don't allow this ** and her partner to spoil the season for you further. They don't deserve it, and you deserve better. Be well.

I understand your points, I really do. And I'm sure the OP does, too. But they are just a bit too . . . I don't know . . . strident? Or too absolute. His love and support of his wife may not be the best thing for you, or for me, or even for most people, if faced with this situation. But if it makes him happy -- I mean, if it truly makes him happy -- then why not stick it out? At least for the near term. He doesn't have to commit today to being there in 2029, or even this time next year. He could conceivably just hang out, play it by ear, and see what develops. The wife could lose interest in her boss, the doctor could lose interest in this woman, they could both lose interest, and then the OP will have remained with her and will have shown incredibly good faith. No decision has to be made today. The only thing we know for sure is that the relationship between the wife and the doctor won't be the same in 12 months or 24 months, or even 6 weeks, as it is today. Today, it's fun and games. Soon, it will no longer be that. Wait and see. Give her a chance to see you being strong and noble and patient.

Thank you for your thoughts on my situation and my life. I am OK with the current situation. Also my daughter does not know anything. My wife has always had a flexible schedule at the hospital and filled in on nights.
I really cannot satisfy her physical needs since this has happened. Not that she cares but I do have a mental block when it comes to her.
I do the cleaning and cooking and all the chores for them that she leaves me daily and we have no friction and fighting.
I do believe the situation will change but I am in a good place and she is happy. When she comes home from her dates she is content. I will dry her off from the shower give her a massage for an hour or more till she sleeps then go to my room. It is actually very intimate.

My wife and I have been married almost 2yrs but for the passed 6mos she has been dating this older married guy her mom introduced her to and who is her moms friend from a longtime ago. Her mom wanted her to divorce me and get with the other guy even if its only being his mistress. I dont get it. About 1 month ago my wife and her mom said I cant even touch or kiss her no more she belongs to the other guy. I am pretty much just doing what you said you do now and thats all. At first I hated it and I told them both I wouldnt do it no more. But now it doesnt bother me as much and I even kinda like it. Its still weird but It actually feels more like this is maybe how its supposed to be for me. The guy is hung bigger and thicker and longer than me and he ** like a ** horse so theres no way I could ever compete but I do like seeingher so happy and her mom keeps telling me thats what i'm for in her life to make sure shes happy. Her mom says hes way more man than I will ever be and that her daughter should belong to this guy and she doesbelong to him now. her mother was always mean to me but now my wife is getting like her and treats me like dogshit.

Do you think she will leave you for him or is this something she plans to keep. Him as a lover and you as a servent. What has this evolved from? Why is it OK to treat your husband like this

I woke up in the middle of the night and realized that I am so in love with my wife. She is ** and beautiful and deserves to be happy and satisfied.
If I can't please her now she deserves to be happy. I will take even better care of all her other needs. If she decides to go with him permanently I will be happy. He will be a better provider and do more for her. I do hope she stays though so I can treat her like a beautiful woman should be.

I'm happy for you. I think your life will be much better and happier from now on, because you are making HER life better and happier. Best wishes. Be well.

....congratulations....... it seems like you made just the right choice for everyone involved.... that could not have been easy........ so i applaud your sacrifice ................ and i hope you and your family have a great holiday season.......

Yes. Start of my new life. Actually may he simpler. I know exactly where I stand.
Happy holidays

It seems to me that, since you've already wrapped HER Christmas presents to him, YOU should get -- and wrap -- a gift for him, too. Just one: a key to your house. Let him know for a fact that he can come and make love with your wife there any time.