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That I have been having many ups and downs with my husband mainly downs at the moment so went on pinterest and looks at quotes on one of the quotes says. A woman who truely loves you will be angry at you so many things but will never leave you. But seriously does this ever actually happen??? As I do love my husband but the no effort on trying to talk about our problems and make changes to how they used to be is really getting me down and yes I have obviously spoke to him about it but the last time I spoke to him about it properly I just got attitude and him saying anything else you want to add? Which made me think maybe I was just being a nag but seriously the last time we had any time together just us was 5 months ago and I don't mean to be rude but he got no excuse my mom and dad would have our son for a couple of hours for us to have a meal out or go for a walk I not expecting too much really am I??? and yes I know I am lucky to have a mom and dad that would have our son I love our son don't get me wrong and we do things with him as much as we can but it would be lovely just to just go for a walk and re connect as a couple as when our son goes to bed he just sits on his phone or watches tv and yes I spoke to him about it and got attitude again. He has very little intrest in how my day has been I ask him about his day and get a few words and that's it. I always try my best to compliment him or make or buy him little things like cookies or something simple but he went out the other day and brought him self and our son stuff and his friends some stuff but not me and to be honest just a bag of sweets would of been nice. I can't keep trying when the other doesn't try as well. Sorry for the rant
The number one problem I see in all of this is( Phones), I hear and see the same comments all the time. You need to start a no phone rule after a certain time, lets say dinner, where during dinner and from that point on the phones are put away. We connect way more to an electronic device than we do to real people in our lives.
Thanks for your comment he just said I was being unfair
Relationships can get in a rut. And it's hurtful when either spouse shuts out the other. If you can, ask your husband if he would be open to going away for a weekend and see if your parents can watch your son for a weekend. Sure, working is hard and when he gets home he wants to relax. However, he has a family that he needs to tend to as well, so he has to figure out some balance. It can't work if he's not willing to talk about it or ignore you. Tell him that you miss him and think it's important to have some alone time to reconnect. And then also set up a plan where you two can have a date night each month or plan time to go for a walk even with your son. If he refuses and doesn't see the importance, you may need to seek couples counseling. Because you voicing your concerns isn't nagging. Sorry, you're going through this. Hopefully, this down doesn't last for a long time and you guys can reconnect soon.
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You're welcome. Now dial back the attitude and actually listen. If you just wanted people to nod and smile at you, you should have said so.