I Hate My Husband's Ex-wife
My husband's ex wife is the most infuriating woman on this planet. They've been divorced for 2 years now and so have my ex husband and I. My current husband and I have been married for 9 months, but dating for a year and a half. We now have a son together. My husband has a 19 year old with his ex wife and she is out of the home away at college. His ex still continues to contact him constantly either wanting money for something or to cuss him out or b**** at him about stupid things. In the beginning she tried everything to break us up. Accusing him of sleeping with her still after he had moved in with me. Calling me a w**** and every name she could come up with. She stalked my apartment relentlessly, harassed me through text and phone calls. She threatened me several times. Followed me into the Wal-mart bathroom trying to fight me. As time has went on things got better a little, but about every few weeks she texts him still and tries to start problems and always uses their daughter as an excuse but their daughter is an adult and doesn't live at home. Has her own phone and car so why does the ex need to tell him anything about the daughter when she is more than capable of telling him herself and definitely does especially when she wants money. My husband always defends his ex and says she just talks to him about their daughter, he says shes over it and doesn't want to be with him. Yet, she's consistently posting things on facebook about not being able to move on from her past and being sad or depressed or missing him and other things along that line. And then she also post things that I know are aimed at me. She knows that I hate when she contacts him so she does it to p*** me off. She called him recently while I was home and she asked "Is your WIFE there?" and he said "Yeah." then she started laughing and you could her a friend of hers in the background laughing very loud and forced so you knew they were just trying to p*** me off. She doesn't text or call me anymore because I finally had to threaten to press charges on her for harassment if she ever contacted me again so she uses texting and calling my husband to get to me. I try not to let it bother me, but it does and I hate her more than I've ever hated anything in my life. And she makes him feel so guilty about their daughter who was definitely a daddy's girl until we got together that he does any and everything his daughter wants from him and he let's it affect the way he treats our son. He acts like he resents our baby because his daughter was mad and jealous that he married me and had another child. I know he loves me, he constantly tells me he loves me and how beautiful I am and that he never wants me to leave him but then when I try to tell him how I feel about his ex wife he gets mad and fusses at me and says I should get over it. But he never tells his ex to leave me or us alone or for her to get over it. I know they were married for 17 years but still they got divorced he married me and he made a commitment to me and their commitment was over after the divorce so shouldn't he be taking up for me instead of her? Or am I just stupid? My ex husband and I have a 5 year old daughter together and we talk less than they do. We are very civil together and he and my current husband get along well and always have nice conversations and even shake hands. But I can't even be in the same room as his ex wife or their daughter because the ex has made their daughter hate me so much that we've never even met face to face and she has nothing to do with her little brother and will not even claim him. Now I find out his ex wife is now dating my ex husband. I made it very clear to him that I do not want my daughter around her. I do not trust this woman around my child knowing she has violent tendencies and a history of stalking and harassing. My ex just stops responding after I say not to have her around my child. He claims they haven't been around each other yet, but if they continue to date and things get serious I don't know what to do because while he was a horrible husband he is a great father and out daughter adores him and I would never stop letting her see her daddy but I absolutely do not want her around that woman. So I just don't know what to do. I feel like everything is falling apart. My husband is great at affection and romance and charm and I am completely in love with him, but I can't stand having to deal with his ex and daughter for the rest of my life and I don't want our son to grow up thinking his father and big sister hate him and resent and doesn't want him.