I am lost what do I do

I’m 21 Years young just recently joined a good union job great pay and benefits. I’ve been with my gf for 3 Years already. I want to go to college and then attend a university. I have no car payment. no credit etc. with this job I plant to start my credit and purchase a economic car or truck in my price range but a little less. I’m good with money and i have saved 25,000 from my last jobs in construction. I soon want to get married and have kids. I didn’t grow up with two parents. Single mom so I always knew going to college wasn’t an option. Now that I’m growing I know what I want to do and how I want to perceive it but I’m a bit lost and confused as to am I doing the right thing? I plan on staying in this union job for at least 2 Years in two years I will be 23, is that too late to start school? My mom always says “it’s never too late”. I don’t live in the best neighborhood but we’ve been renting for awhile so now I want something of mine, but I also know to use living with my mom to my advantage to save for some college and double my money to attend school full time. Eventually it will be my time to start a life. I don’t like this feeling of felling like I’m doing wrong, feeling stuck, worry, or stressed because I’ll be 27 or 28 and burly done with school. Some people think I’m crazy in my family for not just getting married and buying a house but honestly I see no rush. My dad always taught to love what you do and do what you love. I’ve learned to enjoy where I’m at even if it meant struggles etc. I have no rush or anticipation in purchasing a home. Or getting married or have kids. I’m young and I’m very ambitious as of now. Any advice or puns intended? Any opinions?


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  • It's never too late to go to school. Go to your community college and speak with a counselor. You probably can take some night courses and get some of the core classes. Do you know what you would like to study? Because that can determine which university you should attend. Talk with your gf and wait a little on having kids, just so you can get your degree and a job. It will all happen for you.

  • Go to school while you can get yourself a degree even if that means you paying out of pocket and avoiding loans. The fact that you think about school says it all. You want the best in life! Follow your heart thinking about your future ahead of time is definitely ambition. Perceive how the future will change with jobs and us veterans retiring because we’re halfway at the age of living live worry free from savings etc. y’all are up next and let me tell you the company I work for is constantly taking out old heads and replacing with fresh college grads with paid internships, we choose someone who’s got the degree rather than the experience. In a few years a highschool diploma or her won’t mean a thing if you don’t have a adegree. Look at the prices in homes in your area from new construction if the prices are. High then that says all about the future graduates of our century

  • So what you love. You need enough money to be ok but after that I'd choose love your life over anything.

  • Do what you think is best to your benefit

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