22 with aspergers, finally going to try work.

I'm 22 years old, I had a s*** start in my high school career, relentlessly bullied and not getting help when I needed it. Because I got bullied in class too at the start, I found myself no longer able to learn in a class setting because of my attention being hyper focused on everything else around me. I failed a lot of subjects and dropped out of school when I was 16. I have been at home ever since, only going out very sparingly on my own. At 17 I was diagnosed with severe anxiety issues, as I was and am exceedingly anxious when I shouldn't be and often had and have panic attacks. At 18 I got my aspergers diagnosis and things changed, I started understanding myself a lot more. I've gotten to a point where I can no longer stand doing nothing at home, living off a disability living allowance and I'm joining a supported employment program. But I'm terrified. I've never worked, never wanted to work (not out of laziness) and I'm not sure I want to work even now... but I have to do something, I cant live on the way I am and with how little I get from my DLA. How do I become normal, like how do I get out of this complete adverse feeling towards work I have? I want to be able to actually want to have a job but I cant make my mind change like that. I'm trying this supportive employment thing anyways despite my feelings against it, but I wish I could make myself truly want this... I don't want to be scared of something so mundane and normal to literally everyone else. Sorry if I'm not great at articulating my thoughts, or writing cohesively.

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  • Just take it one day at a time, that's really all you can do. Try to avoid using negative words - don't say that you can't do something without trying. Give yourself a chance and be open to new opportunities. You may find something that you like, or even love doing. Yes, it can be challenging but you may also find you enjoy the challenge. And most of all be kind to yourself. Work is work. Sometimes a job isn't going to be the most exciting thing. Keep on pursuing other interests outside of your job to find your passion.

  • Same boat. Now 40 with family and well paying job. Number 1 piece of advice. Don’t count on a job you will like, but you can still derive great pleasure from just working and making money. Work to live not live to work.

  • It can be done. I know a couple guys that have had steady employment at their jobs for many years.

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