Does my mum need help?
I feel like my mum needs help but I don’t know what to do. I live abroad so only see her around the summer and holidays, for about a month each time (although we talk lots). I notice she drinks a lot, just by herself she drank a whole bottle of wine last night.
She also does this strange thing where she’ll lie or exaggerate injuries for sympathy. Last week she said she hurt her knee and couldn’t walk, and I was worried so helped do everything. Then I happened to see her through the window walking around perfectly fine. But when I walked in, she started limping and wincing. I don’t mind doing the work but I wish she wouldn’t lie. Sometimes she’ll complain about headaches to me, then I’ll hear her on the phone complaining about completely different pains. A few times she’s got confused and flustered when a group of us ask how her leg or head or back is.. because she knows she’s told each of us something different. Any time one of us encourages her to see a doctor she just makes some excuse why that won’t help. Then continues to complain about all the pains and problems.
I have to clean a lot, because she’s started to just leave things lying around (food, dirty dishes, clothes etc). And she’s also started eating a lot more unhealthy.
She didn’t used to be this way. I notice her visibly deteriorating (putting on weight, less fit, more slow to understand things etc). And while some of that is old age, I’m positive the alcohol and bad food and lifestyle isn’t helping. I’ve tried to suggest making positive changes, but she just gets defensive or just changes subject.
No idea what to do...