My girlfriend spanks me when I do anything wrong, and it has our
She is in charge.
It isn't a sexual thing. I don't know what it is, exact, but it isn't that. If we fight and I start losing control of my anger, she forces me over her knee, pins me, and either uses a ruler or hairbrush to really spank me, bottom and thighs. It's humiliating, and at first was overwhelming. I hate it, but it's effective. I'll cry, she'll keep going, and shove me in a corner to cool off.
But...my anger is gone. I feel tender and vulnerable. We discuss our fight and cuddle and drink something nice. It's really wonderful, too.
I'm almost thirty. I don't talk to anyone about it. I wish I did.