Asked to be the mule

My father in law wants his daughter (my wife) to move in and take over the 180k mortgage on his house, the family homestead when he can no longer take care of it himself.

I don't want the house but of course my wife does. I will never be respected or regarded as king of the castle there. I will only be the guy who has to take care of everything and pay for everything.

To top it off- my wife told me today while we were talking about all of this, that when the time comes father in law wants to add my wife's name to the mortgage but not mine, just in case we get divorced.

So okay you want me to shoulder all of the responsibility but have no ownership or authority. When she told me that it legit felt like I was kicked in the chest. I physically hurt.

I don't know what we will do or how this is going to play out but one thing that I have become certain of is that I no longer see father in law as a trustworthy friend. He has lost me in that respect.

It bad enough that my wife is boring as h*** and not a very good s** partner. She's plenty nice enough but my God is she boring goody two shoes. She's a good friend and supportive which is something I'm not used to having.

I knew all of this was too good to be true when we met. I knew something would f this all up.

Mar 5, 2022

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  • Personally I'd leave. You are being used. Simple as that. But if you stay be sure you are on the DEED (ownership) if you are on the mortgage loan. If you aren't added to the deed, don't contribute toward the mortgage. They'll figure it out real fast. Trust me.

  • Oh and I hope you find that someone special

  • I’m sorry to hear you’re going through that but I feel what’s best for you is to leave the marriage or else you’ll never be happy. You deserve better and for someone to treat you as their equal and with respect❤️

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