I don’t know what to do. I love my wife but recently she met a friend at work who is a member of BLM and she told my wife she should attend some meetings with her. My wife and I are white her friend is black.
My wife started going and they have a program where you can let a black person live with you for a period of one year to help them get on their feet.
The person chosen was Reggie and he was in between jobs during Covid and lost his home. Things were going good my wife got him a job working from home with her company.
Until after 4 months of him being there, I came home and found them having s**. I left and came back later and told her what I saw.
She cried and apologized. I left for 3 weeks to gather myself and stayed at my parents. When I came home Reggie had moved his things into my bedroom and was now sleeping in my bedroom with my wife.
I asked her why and she said she was hurt and Reggie comforted her.
I can’t evict him due to the program and he didn’t violate the lease terms. My wife won’t tell him to move back into the guest bedroom because she said, “this program is to rebuild trust between whites and blacks and making him move would be like I’m choosing a white Jan over him again.” I said what about us.
She said when the lease is up and he moves out in 4 months then I can come back into our bedroom.
I feel so small and humiliated living here and seeing them hug and kiss and hearing them have s**. I’m her husband and feel like a third wheel. What can I do?? Need help so hurt, devastated, humiliated, she’s right I should have never left for 3 weeks.