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I married my husband when I was 22. Fast forward 10 years and we haven’t lived with each other for over a year and are with different people. We share 2 kids. He hasn’t reached out for them since May, nor has offered any monetary assistance for them (clothes, food, school supplies - it is the end of August as I’m writing this). We never really got along but for whatever reason stayed together. He cheated on me, verbally abused me.. but put his many masks on for others. I’ve been told from others perspective we had a perfect marriage. Towards the end he started to get physically abusive. May of 2023 he ran at me and pushed me against the fridge in the garage with a .45. The next month almost the same. He was forced out of the home. Continued his cheating and lying while telling everyone (parole officers, state mandated therapists, family) that he was remorseful and wanted to fix things. 2024 started and every month him and I would get into a physical altercation. He’s spit in my face, pushed me, choked me, jammed his thumbs in my eyes, ripped jewelry from my body, slammed me in the driveway, twisted my fingers, slammed me in the walls.. etc. Terrible I know. June of 2024 he disappeared and went with his gf. By then I no longer cared and started talking more to a man I’ve generally been around the past year as I was alone. He was a friend, around all my other friends and I didn’t think anything more of him truly other than he got my humor and made me laugh. When my husband came at 5am after disappearing after ignoring me and disappearing with his gf for a week he found me not there with my kids. If I can only show you these surveillance footage and screenshots .. if I was there he would’ve killed me this time. From the looks of it he must’ve gotten into it with the gf and was ready to take it out on me.
The man I said was just a friend was ready to kick his **. But instead he literally waited for my husband to leave, helped me pack my things, moved and paid for a storage for a year..
And moved me and my kids in his home.
I’ve been in his home since June. My kids love him. I love him. Which is so strange. He’s typically not my type. Never was. Never looked at him as such. However, he has been more of a man to me and my kids in 3 months than my husband has in 10 years. He spent well over 1k for my kids to go back to school. (Clothes, fees, supplies, etc). Where as my husband hasn’t reached out for his kids at all in months. Have you ever fell in love this quick?? Is this even real?? Am I crazy?? I have been thru literal abuse… for years. And all of a sudden there’s this strange angel ready and willing to help me and take on every single problem I have with no qualms. It feels strange. New. If I was to sing or dance to a song in public my husband would say I was stupid. This new guy would sing and dance or say I was beautiful instantly.
I don’t know how to take it. How can someone you been with for a decade hate everything about you but someone else you’ve known intimately for 3 months or so can love every single thing? Have you ever been thru this?? Is this trauma rearing its ugly head that I’m not worthy??
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