Feeling better already

I just finished reading other people's confessions and I already feel like my problem is well within the realm of normal. I really appreciate people spilling their guts on this website. It gives me a lot of gratitude for the way things are going for me.

My confession is that I am in a committed relationship with a kind, cute, like-minded,strong, sensitive man and I've been fantasizing about other men lately. This started happening just after he started talking about getting married.

I suddenly want to look more attractive. I've been paying more attention to the way I dress and do my hair.

I keep running into the same man who lives in my town. It's a very small town. I have sexual thoughts about him frequently. I have sexual thoughts about multiple men.

I want to spend my life with this man (the one I'm with). What's my problem?

I was raised Catholic. Now I'm a recovering Catholic and a Buddhist. I would like to just be able to have a fantasy and feel okay about it...maybe even admit it to my boyfriend.

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  • Some secrets are ment to stay that way. I think the question is "Do I love my boyfriend and want to stay with him?" Insecurity and the loss of trust will blow your relationship to shreds. Trust me a 3-way won't solve anything and men are naturally possessive and don't like to share. Maybe this is a warning sign to rekindle the aspects of your relationship that have gone stale. Good luck hun.

  • Being honest is fine, but some secrets are ment to stay that way. I think the question is "Do I love my boyfriend and want to stay with him?" Insecurity and the loss of trust will blow your relationship to shreds. Trust me a 3-way won't solve anything and men are naturally possessive and don't like to share. Maybe this is a warning sign to rekindle the aspects of your relationship that have gone stale. Good luck hun.

  • Its ok to have fantasies. In fact, many men are actually turned on by the idea of their girlfriends having fantasies about other men. A lot of men also like threesomes so if you are also into that, and he's willing to do it, thats a good possibility. Either way, I suggest you talk to him about that. Everyone will have fantasies, thats nature. As long as your not acting on those fantasies without consent your fine. I can almost guarantee you that your boyfriend has also had fantasies about other women.

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