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I have been with my boyfriend for a year and some change. I really love the guy but I can't stand him. I hate when he talks to me , I hate when he tries to kiss me. I don't even enjoy s** with him anymore. I had our child in July. I was pregnant most of our relationship. It wasn't always so bad. I started getting really moody with him when I got pregnant, which is expected...but what wasn't expected was him cheating on me. I walked in on him and another girl in our house. I never forgave him for it...and I don't think I can. I really want to move on from this but I get mad at him at least once a week over this. I do believe he is sorry. But can cheating be forgiven. I don't love him like I use to , but I want to. I really don't want to end it but my heart can't move on from the cheating. Any advice??

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  • Cheating is a form of betrayel and some people can never move on from being betrayed. My dad cheated on my mom when I was younger and although they are still married to this day he still has not fully gained her trust back, so every now and then they will end up fighting because he gets mad that she can't trust because of something that happened more then 10 years ago. I do believe you can forgive someone for cheating but I don't think you can ever forget and when you remember it all the pain is brought back to the surface. From what I understood when I read this is that you had been pregnant for most of your relationship and now you have a child with this man who also betrayed you in the worse possible way. In my opinion I don't think you love this man but I think you are in love with the idea of being with him and having your family together. If you get angry with him and argue/fight more and more everyday then my advice would be to end your relationship on the best terms as possible because if not then not only will you and him both end up getting hurt but your child may also be hurt in the situation and some children to feel as if they are the reasons their parenst fight. But if you do truly love this man and want to be with him then maybe you should try couples counceling or talking to him, and saying everything you feel and he can say what he feels then you can decide if you guys should try to patch things up or maybe just cut ties and raise you child a separated parents. Some people force themselves to stay in relationships because they feel as if it is what is best for the child when truly the child will only be happy if his/her parents are happy and even when you try to hide a child can always tell when something is wrong, even if they don't know exactly what the issue is they still know something isn't right.

    I am only 17 so if you don't feel comfortable taking a 17 y/o advice then I completely understand, I am just telling from experience what I think you should do, cause even though I am almost an adult, it still affects me when my parents argue and I still blame myself for them fighting. I truly wish all the best for you and your family and I hope that you can find a way to have peace and happiness in your heart again.

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