I want to be with him, but it's wrong.

To be honest, I don't think I can give my story coherently about this, but still, I'll try my best.
One of my friends has been flirting with me for the last few months. Problem is, he's got a girlfriend (long-distance). The right thing to do would be to avoid him or confront him and tell him to stop (BUT I'm too much a of whimp to do this.)BIGGER problem: I can't exactly avoid him because we have the same immediate circle of friends, and he has a lot of classes with me.EVEN BIGGER problem: I like him back.

Other people (as in, our classmates) have told me he likes me (in the real sense, and not just because he's flirting with me). I've noticed he REALLY pays attention to me (not in the creepy way); he really listens and gives his genuine opinion back.

I hope I haven't done anything to provoke him; but if I have, I did it unconsciously. I asked a friend what I should do to make him stop, but she just told me that I should "just stop being myself".

I want to stop this (or at least, get some resolve), because frankly, I don't know where this is headed. I know I'm stuck with him for the next 8-10 years because we'll both be going to the same graduate school.

What should I do?

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  • You say to him, in your words, not necessarily these:

    "I hope I'm off base here, but I want things to be clear. Some of my friends say I've been trying to get you to quit your girlfriend to be with me, or to just see me AND her, but they're wrong. What worries me is that YOU might think I was doing that, and I just want you to know I'm not. I truly love you as a friend, but that's really all I can be, so if I've made you think I was trying for something else, just forgive me, please, and still keep being my friend, because that's SO important to me."

  • um that was rather coherent for highschool drama so good job also not that you'd care to listen but do what you can to get through the year till his long distance relationship inevitably falls out and be his rebound girl or catching girl which ever

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