I want a divorce

It has reached the point that I need to divorce my wife. She is an alcoholic and it has ruined our lives, she has given up on wanting children and as her drinking has gotten worse I have come to realize that (even though she promised she would stop drinking if we had a kid) she will not be a good mother to any children we have.

We have been fighting for the past several months. We have talked divorce over and over. And I have recently decided it is time to throw in the towel.

Now I am not sure of my next steps. I have set no money aside for a lawyer or even filing fees. We are broke, like down to a pack of hot dogs and bread for the next few weeks as our debt has become insane.

The last time that I even suggested that I agreed with her that we should divorce, she just attacked me over and over verbally, coming up with anything she could come up with to tear me down. She has physically abused me a few times. Not that I couldn't defend myself, but I'm not going to hit a woman and when it reaches that point, I just don't care anymore. It helps for closure the more she does it.

I know that if I try to get a divorce and we are still living together, I will live in misery. We have no friends because she attacks anyone who comes close. I have slept in my truck many nights to get away.

Money has gotten so bad that we are downsizing to a smaller house, but our main house has not yet rented so we have two mortgages. We cannot move into the smaller house for another month. At that point, at least there is an exit.

I plan on going to Iraq to get a job to help pay for IRS bills since I had to cash out my retirement to help keep us afloat, which comes with heavy penalties. I will make decent money in Iraq but when we spoke about divorce before she has talked about dragging the divorce out for a year so that she could benefit from the money I make out there.

If I had enough for a lawyer and a place to go, I would be out today. We are in a slow period of being cordial but those days have been getting shorter and fewer. The next time she hits the bottle it will not be pretty.

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  • R u sleeping together she might be bored not getting s** sit her down talk to her come to a deal tell her u will stay if she drink 1 day a week s** 3 nights a wk she does escort work 2 days wk forget kids for year r 2

  • OP here.

    Things seemed to be looking up. We got renters into our main house which pays the hefty mortgage. We are in the process of moving into the smaller house which we have already paid three months worth of rent from the other renter's deposits.

    She got drunk last night and was mad at me for not wanting to sleep in the bedroom because she was smoking in bed. So when I would not come downstairs she decided to take a golf club to my truck and beat the h*** out of it. Then she proceeded to call and harass the old man who we are buying the small house from and tear into him. I talked to him this morning to apologize for her and he said he was considering calling the police for elderly abuse.

    I have a job lined up in Iraq. I'm out of here soon. When I get the job I will get the best medical treatment and hopefully she will use it to get some help. Otherwise she will be in jail. Oh ya, and I guess she called the police last night. They said if she does it again they will arrest her.

    I predict my wife will be in jail within half a year if she does not stop drinking.

  • Get her help okay, them get you a job, rent a cheaper house or buy a cheaper older house, save your money, there you go problem solved, let us know what happened okay?

  • IF shes not fit for to be a mom and a sicopath then leave her

  • If money is so tight, why did you buy another house? Why didn't you just opt to rent? It's just a tough situation all together. For a lawyer, look online or in your town for free advice from lawyers regarding divorce. Without children in the mix, it would just be assets that may or may not be divided. You don't say where you reside or how long you two have been married, that also factors into the settlement. The next time she hits you, you could call the cops and have her arrested on domestic violence. Given her drinking problem, she may be forced to go to rehab. Things to consider.

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